Is this an apology?

[ApologyNot]

If you had a big argument with someone, and they called you names etc, really hurt you. They then go home and send a text to another person who was there during the argument, saying that they're sorry things escalated etc.

That same person comes to your house ignores you and doesn't speak to you. Would you say they tried to apologise and reach out to you in their own weird way?

Impossible to say without knowing the person, but, as a general rule, no.

No. How could that be construed as an apology? Did they request it be passed on to you?

Nope, an apology is when they come to you direct and say that they’re sorry for xyz. Apologising to someone else because they witnessed is isn’t an apology to you.

No they were merely embarrassed at it kicking off in front of other person.

No. They are just doing it for the appearances, not for you.

I wouldn’t have anybody in my house who called me names.

So no

No they apologised to the third party for making things awkward.

I'm guessing You and MIL had the fight Dp got the apology text! You can send my winning anytime

Basically it's my MIL, she sent the text to DH as soon as she got home, and I can't figure out whether she's just arrogant and doesn't want to admit she's wrong in front of me. So she apologised to DH knowing that it would get back to me?

@itswinetime yes it is lol

Well it sounds like she’s sorry if she upset your DH, but she’s not sorry about you.

It's only an apology if it is said to the person who has been hurt. And with sincerity.

She's not sorry for what she said, she's sorry that there was an unseemly row. Not an apology, no.

She's regretting being a twat, but she's not sorry enough to apologise.