Aibu re child maintenance

[Harry2006]

Hi just posting for opinions really. I want to know if this is fair what my husband has proposed for child maintenance for our 7 year old dd or am i being taken for a mug.

He is self employed earns approx £200 per week. He collects her from school Wednesday until 8pm then Friday after school until Saturday 9pm.

He will be having £60 of the child tax credits that i claim for her and he said he would pay for school uniform (from Asda), Brownies subscription, school trips and haircuts. All of which will come to approx £520 per year.

I earn the same as stbxh just for reference. Just that really. I am new to this so want some feedback thanks.

I what does the cms calculator say? If he's self employed it will be hard to get anything out him but why on earth would you give him any of the child benefit?

Sorry Tax credit not benefit but still.

Is the £60 per month? If so he's getting £720 a year in tax credits and spending £520 on his dd, plus food whilst she's with him and maintaining a bigger home for her overnight stays (?). No it doesn't sound like enough but he's on a low wage so I'mnot sure you'll get any more tbh.

My stupid mistake for telling him about that. I read somewhere that child tax credit should be split between parents.

Why is he getting the tax credits if you are the resident parent? If he is the resident parent then it should be you paying maintenance.

Why not use the cms calculator?

60 quid out of how much tax credit? I've never heard of splitting tax credit.

If he only has DD for one overnight per week then you should keep all the CTC and get child maintenance off him. Even if he pays for £520 worth of stuff per year, you’re giving him £720 (assuming it’s per month - if it’s per week he is making a massive profit). So essentially he pays nothing and also gets £200 a year of your DDs money for himself.

Put it to him like that, explain that your not handing over the CTC and he needs to start paying support. Ridiculous that he thinks this is ok.

60 out of 220 ctc. I am the resident parent.

Child tax credits/child benefit goes to one parent only. This is generally a fair rule as that parent has the child more so needs the money for day to day costs, apart from cases where the child is with both parents 50/50 where I think it gets a bit more complicated. That’s not the case with you though so I think you should stop splitting the tax credits.

If you're the resident parent, you claim the CTC and keep it. All of it. Then he pays maintenance to you ontop.

This is my 2pwnce he can’t afford to be self employed he needs to get a supermarket job my son was on 400 per week for 3 days work I would not expect this as he can do somthing else he is chooseing to be self employed

Then you should get cb and the tax credits and he should pay you maintanance. £520 a years worth of school and brownies uniforms doesn't really represent the costs of raising a child does it?

I don't understand. Are you really saying he's paying no maintenance and you are giving 27% of the CTC?

Sorry, is the £60 a week or month?

Daisy never thought of it like that. Thats put it into perspective. The cms calculator says he should pay £21 per week . Will let him know he wont be having ctc now. Thanks ladies.

Amazing how many men don’t think paying for 50% of their child’s expenses is “fair”.