To think she's trying to sabotage me?

[Fatclub]

I'm half joking but...
My Mum is generally fab and has done loads for us apart from when it comes to weight. She has done slimming world for years and has lost a lot of weight. She was around 20 stone. She's still heavier than me.

She's quite competitive and jokes she's smaller than my Dad now and seems obsessed with my weight. I'm, 15 stone and a size 16 and she will give me size 22 pants that she's bought because they are too big for her

I was weighed at the doctors a few weeks ago. She asked me what I was and said 'ohhh I thought so, you can tell )

I have just started slimming world myself for health reasons and she's well aware.
I visited Friday and it was the first thing she commented on was me going.
She then offered me crisps and chocolate cake near enough straight away.

Later on she made our tea and offered me what she said was okay. Only actually in the end what appeared a healthiest meal actually turned out to be my weekly syns. I didn't realise this but when I mentioned it I just got a laugh.

Aibu to take my own food next week.
Aib paranoid?

Remember it's about her needing to not feel like "the only one who can't lose weight" - not about not wanting you to be thin. She'd like you to be healthy, she just would like to not have to feel bad about her own food /diet/size issues.

It's not about you - which should help you not get as upset by it.

Avoid being there for meal times, avoid talking about your size/weight/diet. Let her process her own mental health issues around eating and body size - refuse to discuss and keep changing the subject.

Definately dno't go for dinner next week. Go round afterwards/go earlier and leave as you need to "drop something off at X before they go out, I'll eat at home." Avoid the issue until it's all a bit less 'raw' for her.

She is sabotaging your diet and health which is horrible since she's your Mum. I wouldn't discuss your dieting with her anymore and either don't go over for dinner for awhile or take your own food.