my dps aunt came round to our house a couple of weeks ago to see ds (3).
There is a bit of a backstory (tension about a disagreement between the aunt and I) but I don’t want to say too much as it could be outing. I thought that we had resolved it enough to be amicable and polite to each other’s faces, but clearly not.
On Saturday night, a friend of my dm, who also knows my dp aunt saw her at a wedding reception. Dps aunt made some awful remarks to this woman about me and my parenting. She said that she was concerned for my ds welfare as I allowed him to run all over the house in different rooms, while I sat on my arse and drank tea! She said she was worried he could have an accident. There was no mention by the way that my dp should have been watching ds, if this is what she thought, so some double standards there.
Anyway dm friend has told dm and I what was said. She said that she remained very neutral and said to dp aunt she always observed my ds to be well cared for.
Now for the record, ds is 3, he does toddle about in his own home, and I can’t tail gate him, but obviously everything is toddler proofed and I always have an awareness of where he is, what he’s doing, and will check on him every five minutes or so if I can’t see/hear what he is up to.
I am furious about her comments. They are not true and I feel like this is a form of slander by criticising my parents to others. Dp is upset but he wants to leave it and just see her less. I want to call her out on it, tell her if she has concerns go down the proper channels )I.e call social services) who would come out and see nothing is wrong. I would also like to tell her if I hear anything else about her making up malicious rumours I will contact the police.
Aibu here? Would the police do anything about this? I just think it’s very unfair she can go around saying things like this, which are dishonest and a defamation of my character, with no consequence.