To think this is really strange from my ex MIL

[babeintoylan]

My ex sees our daughter (11weeks old) regularly. His mother (my ex MIL) asks him for pictures and updates constantly but refuses to speak to me, or to come and see the baby.

Have had some really awful things happen in my family recently, she didn't even get in touch then (to ask if I was okay etc or if I needed help with DC) I just assumed she would (as the family incidents were SO horrific) but nothing...

I've never done anything to her, I find it shocking. she posts pictures I've taken on her Facebook etc but will not come and see her because of me. I find it extremely hurtful and I don't understand why she doesn't want to be involved with the baby? Just because of me? AIBU to think it's just really sad and strange

Maybe talk to her and find out how the break up was presented to her by your ex?

Could your ex have said something that makes her feel she won't be welcome?

What was your relationship with her like before?

It sounds odd that she's refusing your calls if there has been no issue between you before.

Can you send a message directly to her inviting her to visit the baby and saying she will be made welcome by you when she arrives?

Does your ex come to you for access to the baby while you are present or does he have access to her alone or take her home with him?

Could his mother be holding out to wait until he has access in his own home for some reason?