to think my grandson is a little traitor?

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I went to my daughter's home yesterday for my grandson's first birthday. He was asleep when I arrived so I put his presents down on the side and chatted.
Anyway, when he woke up I was desperate for nanny cuddles but he was hungry so he had something to eat and then finally I was able to give him cuddles and give him his presents - we were just opening the first present when Grandad (my ex-husband) turned up (without a present ) and my grandson practically threw himself out of my arms at him! Eurghh! And there on his lap he stayed for ages. And ex's three youngest sons (5, 6 and 9) were also mega excited to see him...don't worry about me, you know, the one who raises you!

Note: This is a jokey post for all the mega serious Mumsnetters. I'm glad they all have a good relationship with their dad/grandad; I was just like reaalllly?!

I'm glad your grandson enjoyed his day. After all, he's the important one, right?

Do you actually raise your grandson then?

Totally get why you'd be a bit peeved, but remember that it's a comment on your relationship that you're not the rare treat - you're the one he knows will always be there for you. But I know this is both very common (child much more excited about person they see less) and a bit upsetting - looking back I think it must have been a bit shit for my mum that she'd spend all day actually caring for us and then we'd go mental with excitement when we'd hear dad's keys in the lock five minutes before bed time...

No the raising bit was aimed at my youngest son. Sorry my post is confusing.

Both my DSs are obsessed with their grandfathers and will ignore everyone else when they're in the room. Don't understand why at all - think it must be like that cat thing where cats automatically go to the person who pays them the least attention!

Fickle little buggers aren’t they?

Are you adverse to upping your secret sweets game?

I get it. Dcs spend eow at their dads, a total of 4 days a month, i do everything else, but as a pp has said hes the rare treat. Everytime i pick them up from their dads my littlest whos 2 cries then has a sulk for pretty much all the journey home. I hate it, he eventually snaps out off it 10 miles from home and is very happy to see me, but i am just plain old boring mummy, not exciting daddy, but its me he wants when hes hurt or ill. Still a traitor though! 😁

Children and dogs are contrary buggers.

Both my sons prefer male company for some reason.

I will definitely have to start a 'secret sweeties' game.

Honestly, you'd have thought Santa had walked in yesterday.

Am I understanding correctly: You have 4 children with ex... the 3 young sons and your daughter who has a son herself? Your ex visited and stole the show, so to speak?

"Sorry my post is confusing."

Yup!

Halfway through the post I was preparing to flame for entitlement but nope I apologise it's a pain in the bum

I do all the sensible stuff....feeding clothing schooling ,serious debating about which is the best dinosaur, crawling under the sofa for that single piece of bastarding Lego that apparently is constructionally essential to whatever is currently being built

But DP holds them upside down once and he is a God

EXDH turns up and it's like the second sodding coming

lol, I was that child, now I see it through that lens too :) we all laugh and joke now about how much of a grandad's girl I was and my two kids are the same, they just adore their great grandad and I do somtimes feel for my gran!

I look after my dgd a lot, every day, and I think she likes me. But, as soon as one of her Uncles(she has 2, doesn't care which one) walk into the room she drops me like a hot potato and is glued to them for ages. Mind you, if she needs some actual care, she does come back

I was the same with my Grandad, my grandparents had me living with them for quite a while, and I was a definite Grandads girl, even though he was working full time and my Gran did all the looking after me. Fickle beasts, children

Yep - completely understand! You are absolutely NBU.

I was housesitting for my parents - so just me and 2 year old DD. After 3 days she annouces en route to nursery "not want mummy, Grandma pick me up".

Cheers.

I do totally understand but it does make sense too - they don't see him as much so they make a huge fuss in the hope that their enthusiasm will encourage him to come more or even stick around. Also because he probably doesn't do the hard stuff - the discipline and saying no - the same way that you do, so he's "fun dad".

So bloody annoying though!!!

Understand too! Took DD on holiday last week and asked her if she is having a good time... "No. Where my nanna?"

I've just remembered how much I loved my grandad too...which probably annoyed my nan because she took care of me whilst my parents worked and grandad used to play with my farm animals and colour with me and my nan would do everything else.