My brother died a week ago. Utterly devastated.
He was diagnosed with a terminal illness a few months after leaving his wife for another woman.
His wife admits that they had been unhappy but agreed to stay together until their youngest child had gone to university but his meeting someone else had been just a catalyst.
The ‘other woman ‘ nursed him tirelessly and all of us were treated very civilly. They were married very quietly. She behaved in a completely dignified way. She was open and transparent to my sister-in-law who visited with and without the children. She is being completely transparent about wills etc and will get nothing from brother’s death. It will all go to his children.
Just wanted to give you a picture of her. Even sister-in-law and parents (grudgingly in their case) admit she has behaved impeccably.
I was told the end was near and invited to the hospital. I walked in and my brother’s new wife jumped up when she saw that I was being followed by my husband. She asked him to leave. I was confused. After some time I said that my husband would like to come in when somebody else stepped out. She was very vague. Finally she took me aside and she essentially said my brother didn’t really like my husband and she didn’t think that he would be wanted. My brother died that night.
I haven’t spoken to my husband but he clearly knows that it wasn’t just a ‘numbers ‘ thing around the bed. I can’t imagine seeing this woman again after the funeral. Should I ask her what she meant? She has genuinely behaved impeccably throughout. They were brothers-in-law maybe not friends but I never gave their relationship any thought. I am really troubled but others have more right to grieve than me. Thought about talking to my old sister-in-law but feel it would be inappropriate.