To ask her not to drink?

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Have booked a nanny to look after my 2yr Old and 8 month old for 3 nights and the days in between too.
WIBU to ask her to not drink whilst she is in sole charge? She is a nanny for a family normally.

She would be at work so I can’t imagine she’d think it was ok to drink anyway?

You really shouldn't have to ask! What sort of nanny would drink on duty?!

Of course YANBU, she's at work. I don't drink when I'm at work!

I'm sure it goes without saying but if you feel better mentioning it then do

She's working so of course she won't be drinking alcohol. I can't imagine any nanny doing so. They would though drink coffee, tea, water, milk, all sorts of other things.

Is she a known drinker and thus you feel the need to say something about not drinking alcohol?

Why on earth would you have to tell someone not to drink on duty?!

I just didn't know the protocol ! It will fall over the weekend when she is minding them,
But I'm sure she wouldn't drink anyway.

YANBU
I am always astonished when babysitting for strangers how many say "There's wine or beer in the fridge." I never take them up on the offer but it shows that for many it isn't an issue so if it is something you feel strongly about it's worth mentioning.

I would make it clear anyway. Depending on whether she views this as a professional nannying assignment or a babysitting-style 'favour', her expectations might be different to yours.

Out of interest, is it any drinking that bothers you, or excessive drinking?

Yanbu but surely you shouldn't have to ask?

Personally if I am home alone with children I never drink alcohol and if there are both of us here , one stays sober. This dates from when I had to rush to my ill mothers side at a moments notice so I am used to it , not being a martyr!

She is being paid typical nanny agency rates so it's not a favour thing.
Any amount of drink that would take you over the drink drive limit is a nono for me I'm afraid when looking after small children alone.

You could. But surely she wouldn't, anyway? And would you leave your DC in the care of someone who might?

Adelino I know! Parents are always offering me alcohol! I don't think I've ever had anyone ask me not to drink. I don't touch it anyway even in the normal way of things but what sort of nanny would drink while working?!

When ours were little dh and I would often share a bottle if the kids were in bed but they were our kids and we weren’t working. Of course a professional nanny shouldn’t drink she’s in duty.but if you are worried mention it.

Op it’s totally your right not to drink alcohol but do you seriously live your life expecting a medical emergency or catastrophic incident every evening. Do you never share a glass with you dh?

Seems very OTT to me to not drink for that particular reason.

Taxis, etc.

Just tell her, then: I expect you to remain under the limit at all times.

Do you have reason to think that she might drink?
If not, it's a very weird thing to ask.

I'd be suprised if she would even considerate it, looking after 2 young children!

Honestly she is working she won't be drinking

I would just say you would prefer no drinking at all, I am sure that is the norm. I mean - can you imagine anyone at nursery downing a glass of wine at lunch and it being acceptable

@Seasawride like I said I went through many months of having to be on call for my Mum , plus several hospital visits for my youngest dc. So yes I am a little anxious. Not a drinker anyway these days.

I reckon it's totally reasonable, as long as it's worded right :)

Very strange that some people say that either they or their partner would always stay sober in case they need to drive!! How do you think non-drivers cope if there is an emergency??!

I just think people have a preferance for drinking at home

No harm in setting out your expectations. Be prepared for her to laugh and say of course she would
not be drinking on duty.