DP works 5 days per week and I'm on maternity, i developed PND shortly after having him and for the most part I'm slowly getting better but there are bad days too, sometimes I struggle and on days like that it would be nice to have a bit of help with housework and to not come home from the gym to the flat in a worse state than when I left it. The flat is never filthy but can get messy real quick due to the fact we have a small living area (kitchen and living area all in one room) think studio flat type of thing. I have to and do tidy daily otherwise there's no room to breath, I haven't always got the motivation but If I don't do it nobody will.
I also do all the cooking, meanwhile every spare hour DP has when he's not at work is spent on his play station. I appreciate he works but I was never so lazy when I was pregnant and working, still making sure I tidied every day.
Today is his day off and he spent time DS so I could go to the gym, the doctor reccomeded exercise to help with my depression alongside other things so I try and go when I can although its never often.
I say watched him but it was more a case of ds laying on his playmat while he played his games all afternoon.
Ive struggled a bit this past week so pushed myself to get up and be active today, I do find it helps. I got home exhausted after cycling in the heat, working out, having a swim, doing a food shop and then cycling home. I just wanted to shower and sit down for half an hour before I cook etc.
When I got home he was sat on his backside playing games, LO was asleep and the flat was even messier than when I left it, naively I thought he might have took the initiative to have a quick tidy.
Aibu to think he could have (today and more often) tidied up a little, at least taking his washing out the washing machine for example, or tidying the sofa so it wasn't a dumping ground of throws and cushions, or changing the bin like I had asked him for the third time that day. He went to get some sleep once I got back leaving me to deal with the bombsite before i cook.
I probably sound like a moaning cow but I really am sick of him doing naff around the place other than game as he lives here too and it doesn't do my PND any good having to do absolutely everything with no help (bar the rare occasion he will watch baby for a few hours so I can go and get the food shopping without the pram, or today with the gym)
He thinks gaming is his "down time" when he's not working, so aibu to want a bit of help upkeeping the flat even though I'm on leave from work right now and he isnt.