... football

[TopWorrier]

Currently PG on holiday with OH, our last holiday before baby arrives. Obviously the World Cup is on and he is a football fan, he is spending a lot of our time watching the matches, dragging me to hot bars to watch them with him (and not coping well in the heat as PG and can't have a couple drinks to get in the mood) and talking to me about it (he knows I quite frankly don't care) AIBU to think this is our last holiday together and he should pack it in? Wanted to ask before I mention to him I'm upset by it. Thanks x

I don’t think you’re being U but plenty of people will be here to tell you that you are, in various dramatic ways!

Depends on where you are? Are you somewhere there are activutirs yiu like too? Can you not do both. Or do things tigether and then when football is on he goes to watch it and then you neet up after?

Well there are no matches for the next two days.

Can you just not refuse to go out for the matches? I love football but DH despises it and it’s a relief to me if he doesn’t want to come. Just stay in your room with a good book?

I think you’re a bit late OP, there’s only two matches next week.

YANBU to not watch if you don’t want to

Time to learn to compromise for both of you. It's his last holiday before baby arrives as well. Let him go to watch the match while you do something you would like to do. Do you ever talk to him about things he is probably not interested in? If not it's time to start.

I understand your frustration but if you enjoyed something a lot and your partner told you to pack it in how would you feel?

Also it's a no win situation for him if he decides to be on calls or message to his friends then you would be annoyed about that too.

It's really sucky to be happy and not have anyone else to share excitement and joy with. When he is going to the bar to watch football why don't you take time to pamper your self or do something else entirely football only lasts 90mins add 15 mins or so if there is no winner. Maybe take the time to relax and enjoy some you time instead and regroup after?

Pack it in?

Sorry but YABU. You obviously decided to book the holiday right when the world cup was on!

I’m not a football fan but I can respect that it’s a hobby/interest like any other and if your OH is that passionate about it it’d be unreasonable of you to tell him to ‘pack it in’ like he’s your naughty child misbehaving.

When he goes to watch the matches you go and do something relaxing separately, they only last a couple of hours and it’s good to have a bit of time alone during a holiday where otherwise you’d be together 24/7.

He can go watch the game then meet up with you afterwards. As for talking about it, I think YABU. It’s part of a relationship to show interest in the other person’s interests and listen to what they want to talk about regarding them. If it’s for hours on end then that’s unfair, but you’d want him to show interest in an interest you have that he doesn’t, so what will it take to just sit and listen and offer the odd comment when he’s excited about it? Relationships would be a bit shit if you could only ever discuss mutual shared interests.

There are only four teams left.

A bit late to the football hating party op.

Chill your boots and enjoy your holiday

Surely it's a holiday for both of you so you should both get to do things you love. Why do you think it's fair to only do stuff that you want to do? Matches are only 90 minutes (unless it goes to extra time/penalties), so not a lot of time out of your day. You've now got a few football free days as well so plenty of time to do whatever you want to do.

yup. YABVVVU. Just don't go to the pubs and stay at home/the hotel. Let your DP have his 90 to 130 minutes of freedom and joy/sadness.

But this is how couples get on and have successful relationships.

How far are you? Because if you are 38 weeks then perhaps he could have some consideration for you comfort.

I completely understand where you are all
Coming from, i do feel unreasonable getting upset about it, that's why I asked here first. Yesterday he had us watching both matches (second one went on for 120 mins) and it was a long hot day for me being PG but I felt bad saying I wanted to leave him to go rest. I know he wouldn't be comfortable leaving me alone in a foreign country so I think me going off to do something alone would be out of the question.

I'll just suck it up and put a smile on haha