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Inlaws visiting! Need suggestions of food to stock up in the fridge

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Serendipite · 08/07/2018 02:44

Posting here for traffic.

My MIL and BIL are coming for a visit for two weeks. They will be mostly by themselves during weekdays.

What do I stock up in the fridge to make sure they have food to eat?

Suggestions pls.

They mostly eat low-carb but not strictly low-carb .

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GorgonLondon · 08/07/2018 14:24

Oh, and it wasn't only your post, which is why I didn't use your name. Several other posters also helpfully suggested 'plenty of rolls to make sandwiches', 'crackers', 'extra bread', etc.

I don't get it - at all. Why would anyone take a request for food suitable for low-carb diet and recommend the highest-carb food they can think of?

GorgonLondon · 08/07/2018 15:01

I wanted to add one final thought to this - I have at times had a fraught relationship with my MIL, sometimes very fraught, but one thing I appreciate VERY MUCH is that she understands and respects my dietary requirements and food issues.

She knows that I can't really eat carbs, and now every time we go to visit she will always get in some chicken, ham, etc. especially for me, and she'll always ask what I would like in advance.

It's a small thing but it shows me that despite the problems we've had from time to time, essentially she does want to have a good relationship with me, and that has a very positive effect on how we relate to each other.

If on the other hand she did what you're suggesting OP should do, and buy food her in-laws can't eat, that could have a seriously destructive effect on their long-term relationship. It would be construed by a lot of people as a real insult or a veiled way of saying that you don't respect them or want to be hospitable.

Serendipite · 08/07/2018 23:33

Sorry to dripfeed, but they're coming from overseas. They've visited here before (last year) and I filled the fridge with salad greens, dressings, cheese, rotisserie chicken, etc.

However, MIL seemed to prefer ready made salads, so when I noticed that, I bought ready made salads. It was spring though when they came, and now it's Winter.

We have a good relationship, and she's a very nice person. But of course she has her quirks. She seems to not like reheated food, or left overs. My DH and I eat leftovers all the time so we bring the leftovers to work, and she joked it was like having her son become a garbage bin.

They'd go out for a while, but always came home to eat. My MIL can't walk that long or that far so at the most, they go out for half a day.

So I want to make sure there's plenty of options for them at home so they are not forced to eat outside.

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C4T5 · 09/07/2018 01:42

Well clearly she doesn’t mince her words, judging by the garbage bin comment, so just ask her! A bunch of random strangers are not going to be able to tell you how to stock your fridge for your mother in law Confused

Serendipite · 09/07/2018 02:08

^I asked her last year, and she said "anything is fine."

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toyoungtodie · 09/07/2018 10:34

Well PrimalLass the OP has enough advice about food on here now, to sink a fridge.
Thanks for your response to me, at least it was assertive rather than aggressive. My MIL has just died and I am glad because her quality of life was so poor.
She was very introverted and had lots of issues, coupled with my own issues, it didn’t make for a good relationship. We were both looking too hard for hurts and slights. Jealousy was in there as well.
The thing about being a MiL is that it it is a experience, rather like having children.....in that no one can tell what it is like unless they are one.
I may be wrong but most people on Mumsnet are not MiLs and they give advice without any experience. It is usually so vitriolic as well.
I only post from experience myself.
The problem is that most of us become MiLs ourselves when the problems we are having with our own MiLs are well established. I know it’s too late for me but I think all MiLs and Dils maybe aught to contemplate having a counselling session.
I know I have projected on here, which is probably because my MiL has just died and it saddens me that our relationship wasn’t and couldn’t be open and honest. Lol

PrimalLass · 09/07/2018 21:22

I'm really sorry for your loss.

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