DH and holiday

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NC'd for this

We came back from holiday yesterday and are already talking about getting a similar deal for next year as we had such a lovely time. We travelled with our 4 DC and 2 of DH's siblings, partners and DCs. 17 in total.
Next year it will be just the 6 of us. DH said he will miss the company of his DB and BIL for quiet pints away from the DC.
He said 'I'll find someone else to have an hour to myself with'
I know being away with children is full on but it is what it is... a family holiday. Aibu to be annoyed?
I feel a little hurt that we haven't even booked it yet and already he's thinking about time away from the DC.
For the record he is a very good dad. Works hard, pulls his weight. He's a great husband. I feel bad for feeling hurt one minute then the next minute I'm annoyed at him!!! Help!!

Every parent deserves a bit of me time away from the kids during a holiday, just make sure you get a bit of alone time too while he has all the kids.

Thanks @AlmostAJillSandwich
I'm probably just a bit over sensitive at the mo!

Every parent deserves a bit of me time away from the kids during a holiday

Do they? Says who?! (Apart from you, of course, I just had no idea that 'me time's on holiday was such an integral element!)

He probably has a case of foot in mouth syndrome and speaks before engaging his brain, I bet what he meant was he will miss going for a pint with the other men and the company and banter they have together....and since they aren't going next year he won't have that when he goes for a pint so he will have to find some other men to have a pint and banter with

I'm going on holiday with my family and I'm so looking forward to an hour every afternoon when our youngest is in kids club for an hour. Peace to read my book and knowing he is in safe hands, out of the sun and away from the pool. I booked the hotel for this reason. I've 23 hours a day keeping an eye (or ear whilst asleep) out for him and I'll cherish that one hour!

You're probably right @ElderflowerWaterIsDelish!

I bet what he meant was he will miss going for a pint with the other men and the company and banter they have together.

I bet he didn't, going by the number of men who opt out of family holidays, and either stay home on their own, or go off on a lads'holiday of some sort.

In some cases, their wives/partners get to go away alone at another time. But it's not reciprocated in all cases.

Why does he think he can just opt out and not be a parent for a week, especially when it seems to be a unilateral decision with no discussion? Has he considered anyone else's point of view at all?

Why does he think he can just opt out and not be a parent for a week?

According to OP he said he would like to get away for an hour - your post seems something of an overreaction

Why shouldn’t he be able to have an hour to himself? Provided of course that he plans to reciprocate and let the OP have some time to herself - and nothing in her post suggests that he doesn’t.

OP I’d see this as a positive and say say “fine, I’m looking forward to some time by myself going for a walk/reading by the pool/having a massage/whatever you enjoy too” and take it from there.

Holy moly! Seems like the PO brigade are out in full force.
red I wonder if your DH just fancied a bit of male company like he's just had ?
It's ok, and acceptable And bloody necessary for both parents to spend time away from DCs and have time to be human again.
I think dojo that it's weird that you feel parents aren't allowed a holiday too.