To be annoyed by this parent at a party

[TooMuchSunshine]

One of my good friends had a party for her son 1st birthday today. My baby and Dsd were invited.
Was lovely.. Hall hired with some soft play and bouncy castle. (a small one for infants that u buy in toy stores)

There was one parent who went ( my friends SIL, - that she isn't keen on at all but invited for kids sake) who was constantly at her kid saying 'did that boy take your balloon poppet or you don't let people go in front of you on slide.. Tell mummy and she will tell them off..

None of this involved my dsd she was on the soft play other end and baby too young to play.

I moved to back of hall where was cooler as baby was getting iratable due to heat.
Right by trampoline

Anyway her girl of about 4. Slid down the small slide off, into a Soft play mat but half missed and bumped head on floor.
Now when I say it was the smallest tap, no injury..
The child screamed and screamed.. Mum ran over.. Omg Omg Omg what's happened baby girl Omg omg. Etc.

So I said what happened and explained it wasnt in anyway a hard fall or bang to her head. I think it was more of a fright. (as the child was screaming like she'd fallen 10 ft)

The mum said in an aggressive way what do u mean not hard.? . All bangs to head are hard! .
. Then continued with oh baby quick mummy will get you a big glass of coke that'll make it better! child stops crying instantly
I was only trying to be nice.

I'm not going to mention to friend as she has a lot of issues with this woman and i wouldn't want to add to their atmosphere in the family

I'm just annoyed.. Id that was my child I'd be glad someone told me what happened

She sounds like one of those people who think the sun shines out her child's arse no matter what!

YANBU to be annoyed, hopefully a rant here has got it off your chest and it's good you're not going to say anything! There are some right twats in this world who are best ignored

i would be annoyed and have a bitch about it with an appropriate friend but it's not big deal really. Some parents are ridiculously overprotective. You will meet loads of them before your DC are 18. Just roll your eyes and move on.

don't.let.it stop you from being kind and helpful. Most of.us would have appreciated your input

Oh yeah I know theres plenty like it.. I have a teen DS so see it all before. ( crazy to start again some may say lol)

I had a rant to dp about it and he just said it's the kids you feel sorry for being 'bubble wrapped'
Was good to rant lol

I think when you have older children you are more aware of it.

Either that or I'm a meanie mum..
First thing I say.
Is your ' whichever limb is injured' falling off?... No
Are you bleeding to death.? No
Can you move it.. Yes
Go and play or you'll miss out on the fun

Obviously unless I can see its a big injury .

She's an idiot for getting her daughter coke. She must still be up now if she drank it.

She gave her daughter coke?

Is any of that post in English?

All the above posts are in English. Is it not your first language then?

Yes a glass of coke.

Yes English.. Sorry it may of been rambled and awful grammar and punctuation, but that's me unfortunately.

Don’t apoloigise for post composition. Some folk get all snippy to make a dig
However they masquerade it as concern about posts grammar,spelling

I understood that post perfectly, don’t worry OP.

That Mum sounds hard work, perfectly reasonable to have a rant here and to your DP!

@TooMuchSunshine You wrote that in a lively, direct reportage narrative style - perfectly understandable and it described the scenario perfectly well ! And the irritating mother - there was an acquaintance in my ante natal group just like that and the children did not grow into delightful adults 😒

Is any of that post in English?

What exactly don't you understand?

Nice set of judgements there, op.

A woman who parents differently to you being slated online for being concerned for her child and giving her coke. And the rest of those here who decided to jump on your bandwagon.

Sure, you don't agree with her but what happened to live and let live?

Oh don't be so sanctimonious differentnameforthis

Over protective mums like this make it awkward for all the reasonable mums and kids. They are going to tumble. Not every knock is life threatening and children are resilient. Wrapping them in cotton wool is not helpful.

And giving a child coke? She loses all respectability to right there.

Over protective mums like this make it awkward for all the reasonable mums and kids No, they really don't. She is parenting her child, you just parent yours in a different way.

And giving a child coke? She loses all respectability to right there. And you call me sanctimonious??

Come??? And let the child's teeth fall out? Good parenting!

Coke!? (Predictive text rubbish!)

When DS was becoming mobile and would take a tumble, if it didn't look serious I tried to look away before he saw me looking. If he knew I'd seen him fall, he'd start crying. If he thought I hadn't seen, he got up and carried on. Now a toddler, he mostly laughs at himself when he falls or bumps his head.

By responding as this woman does, she's teaching her daughter to turn every knock into a drama when she should be teaching her resilience. This is a disservice to the daughter and to everyone who is ever going to have to deal with the daughter in the future.

@TooMuchSunshine
I'd feel annoyed if I heard her saying same as in your OP too. Even with my PFB son (I'm a mum of 3 and oldest DS is now 15..). There's something passive aggressive about her "comments" to her DD that I suspect she hoped other people would hear.

I get it, they are all precious.
( But I bet money on her not reacting same when her DD is being mean!).

And at 4 y.o. you'd expect to be dusting her off , intervening only when it was an obvious risk and building her DD up to keep perspective for school normal unintended knocks and life in general. She'd have gotten an eyeroll from me.