Is DH doing enough work round the house?

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I am a SAHM, DH works 9-5. We have a darling DS who is two and a gorgeous baby girl who will be one next month

I started a new thread as couple of days ago about something completely different but sine posters thought my DH wasn't doing enough work around the house (as this came up in the discussion.) Can I ask for some opinions?

DH leaves the house for work maybe 8:15, so I make breakfast for the whole house as we usually are all up around the same time. He usually takes in leftovers or packs himself a lunch to eat at work, sometimes he'll buy it. I cook dinner. Sundays he often cooks lunch or breakfast.

We have a regular cleaner so not much of that to do , anyone on hand will clean something if there is a big mess. Usually I tidy things around the house when I have time . DH likes the house tidy so pitches in here quite frequently.

I put the laundry on and hang it out, cleaner does the ironing. He often baths the DC and plays with them after work after he's had a rest (after work he likes a cup of tea and a sit down before anything else.) He takes the rubbish out as he goes out to work and handles the garden if it needs it, mows the lawn and trims the plants etc. Washing and drying up I do breakfast and lunch, obviously, as he's either not home or leaving for work. Dinner we try and take turns .

I didn't think this was odd at all but some people suggested otherwise and it's got me thinking that maybe it's not very equal. If it helps DH is usually very tired for work and often complains of back or shoulder pain (I think he should get it checked out) so I let him rest for some time after he gets home . As he's so tired and obviously as I'm a SAHM I thought our arrangement was fair. But now I'm wondering if I'm BU to do as much housework as I do.

Any opinions? (Feel free to tell me I'm being lazy and he does a perfect amount, maybe the heat is making me lazy )

Sounds like a good balance to me, and you sound like a happy couple!

Sounds pretty fair to me! If you're both happy with it then what's the problem?

Oh I misread. You think he should do more?

Sounds like he does his fair share to me.

Sounds fair enough to me. And if you are both happy with it, that’s all that matters really.
Maybe share the night waking / lie ins on a weekend if there are any?

That sounds an equitable arrangement to me.

Lucky you sounds fair

As a working mum of 2 my DH does much less.

You think he should do more?

Not really, I thought it was fine but some commenters on my previous thread didn't think he did enough. Maybe it was as that one doesn't exactly paint him in the best light .

But I'm glad to see everyone seems to think it's fine ! I guess the comments just got in my head and I freaked out a bit

Sounds like he takes a fair share... For comparison if it helps, we have four DC two in school one in nursery half days and one at home. I am a SAHM but do some casual admin work for a friend now and again.
My DH usually leaves between 7 and 8. Gets home around 8pm but is often away two or three nights a week. He will pitch in with the cleaning on the weekend if I haven't had chance in the week but usually it will wait until Monday. If he's home he helps with bedtime. He will cook occasionally if I'm not here. I do all laundry. He does his own ironing most of the time because I don't do his shirts properly 😁😁
When I was working part time he would do more as his days off were the days I worked but since I gave up work I don't mind doing everything at home. He spends most of his weekend working from home and playing with the kids.
You have to do what works for you And every family is different.

Sounds fine to me

What would you like him to do?

I work three days a week and my DH does less than yours so yeah I’d say it sounds pretty fair.
My DH is a dick though so maybe not a fair comparison.

What would you like him to do?

I don't know, I don't really have any complaints as such. The only thing I could complain about is shopping, I guess. He hates food shopping and the one time I made him do it he did it so wrong I didn't let him do it again. He still refuses to come out with me while I do it though and I usually have to bring the DC along because he goes out around that time with friends probably to avoid me asking if he can come

But that's a bit of a petty grievance

Glad to see I've got a general consensus Thanks for all your input!

He sounds like he does his fair share, and I'd ignore posters that say otherwise. There's a loud club on here who seem to think men should work full time, and do everything round the house, just because they're ~pissing around on mumsnet all day~ SAHMS

It definitely sounds like he does enough to me.

I don't know, Stirner, maybe it is a Mumsnet thing. My last thread wasn't exactly singing his praises, so maybe there was a bit of a bias towards him regardless .

But thank you all for replies X

This has been gone over once before, what exactly different advise are you actually hoping for?

He does plenty.

what exactly different advise are you actually hoping for?

Nothing

I haven't done a thread like this before. Are you maybe confusing me with someone else ?

We just do our food shopping online! Means we can go through the list together and neither of us has to schlepp around the supermarket.

He sounds bloody great to be honest.

Maybe makes sense @Celebelly

DS does love going out shopping though, for some reason.