Aibu to wonder why everyone disappears in the summer holidays

[hooochycoo]

Second weekend of the holidays already here in Scotland and already I feel so lonely.

All the other children that my kids are friends with and whose parents I know are suddenly not around. Attempts to organise play dates and hangouts ( either in advance or on the day) have been unsuccessful.

Is everyone really busy? Or is my paranoia justified.

Does anyone else find the holidays incredibly lonely?

Ok she maybe just wants a break try andnot message her and see what happens you don't need to feel so paranoid

Then a different board than Aibu and better phrasing would have been sensible. People aren’t mind readers

So you just have to be snarky in AIBU then I see i and other posters are doing mumsnet wrong just because op was in Aibu
There is no reason to be such a cowbag .

It’s generally assumed if you post in AIBU then you’re asking a question, the question being whether you’re being U or not. People tend to answer the threads based on that premise. That’s not being a cowbag. I couldn’t see how it wasn’t obvious why people weren’t around during the holidays. I didn’t realise it wasn’t a genuine question and really just a moan.

I always find AIBU a really useful wY to gain different perspectives and see the other side of something that is annoying or upsetting me. I don’t post to just get the same opinions as me, I appreciate the challenges. And can happily take the cow bags with the smooth.

I just want to gain some perspective about why this phenomenon happens to me. It’s the same every holidays. Was wondering whether others have the same experience. And looking and perspectives from the other side.

Eager not to feel
Paranoid so looking for perspectives!

Thanks

if it’s only the holidays it’s happening then doesn’t that tell you something?

If you're in Scotland then won't be away now before the prices go up?

Is this about people in general or that one friend?

We have hardly any time for play dates in the summer holidays - mine spend half the holidays with their dad (and he tends to go up to his parents with them or go abroad) and then out of my 3 weeks we are away 1 week, in holiday clubs one week (so I can work) so that leaves one week for play dates and day trips and hanging out at home. So, answer is - might be they are busy; might be they just don’t want to hang out! I wouldn’t pester someone daily like that though, they will just get fed up

Yeah it is just the holidays.

And I didn’t think it was pestering as they’d already said yes and message me, and then tomorrow etc. But yes, I am no longer asking. Shame though as my daughter still is.

It is people in general, not just one friend.

So if it’s just the holidays and not all the time then you know it’s nothing to do with you and just the holidays. Right?

I just dropped my son off at a pool party at a friend's house. It's been in the 80s and 90s all week. The family have a swimming pool and are having a BBQ with lots of food and drink, and volleyball.

Even so, out of his group of about 12 friends, only 3 could make it. The other 9 or so are away or busy.

It's just how it goes in the holidays. It's nothing personal.