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AIBU?

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To have felt annoyed by this man at the gym

20 replies

LivinLaVidaLoki · 07/07/2018 08:42

Had circuits at the gym last night.
There were 2 people at each station (so two of us doing the same exercise before moving on to the next) I get to the squat lifts and there are two barbells. One had an extra 5kg weight on either side. I picked this up.
So this man comes to the other weight, looks at mine and says "I think that's for me" and sulksabout it til I swap (didn't want to hold the class up).

I know I'm probably overthinking this but it really pissed me off. I used to be really overweight and through eating properly and exercising I lost a little over 7 stone. I tend to do more resistance training and interval training now and I'm so proud of how far I have come and how strong I feel, and the confidence I get from challenging and pushing myself..... but yeah he has a penis so is obvs stronger than me....

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Discotits · 07/07/2018 08:44

I wish you hadn’t give them to him! What an arse. Let him sulk next time.

Urbanbeetler · 07/07/2018 08:44

You shouldn’t have swapped. Next time tell him to jog on.

pasturesgreen · 07/07/2018 08:49

I know I'm probably overthinking this

^ You are. It happened last night, it's done and dusted. Let it go. Much much better for your blood pressure.

Angie169 · 07/07/2018 08:50

He sounds like a ass. But are the weights preset for each of you ? Ie be for you start the class do you get asked what weight you want on them ?

Pflt · 07/07/2018 08:53

Ohhh I would be seething.

He was so patronising! Next time someone says that just say, “Oh! I think it’s for me!” and carry on. He was the one holding up the class, not you.

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LivinLaVidaLoki · 07/07/2018 08:54

No they're not preset. There is a standard weight (It's the same each time) and a lighter one just in case (for instance there was a new girl in the class last night so she used the lighter one)

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Believeitornot · 07/07/2018 08:55

It depends. If the weights are set for individuals and it was set for him then what’s the big deal?

IrisAtwood · 07/07/2018 08:57

Could have said “Should have got here sooner!” with a friendly wink and carried on.

SD1978 · 07/07/2018 09:02

You need to take some responsibility too. He should have requested/gotten extra weights for the round or in time for the next one. He shouldn’t have made the comment. You shouldn’t have meekly handed the weight bar you were using. So basically he has a penis so you kowtow to one?

Obviouspretzel · 07/07/2018 09:07

Well you shouldn't have given it to him then? You have reinforced his superiority.

AjasLipstick · 07/07/2018 09:07

You're annoyed with yourself for giving in.

Just learn the lesson and move on. Don't give in next time.

ErictheGuineaPig · 07/07/2018 09:12

He's a twat. 'I think these are for me'. I'm cringing for him! You know what a dick he is now so just avoid him like the plague.

NorthernSpirit · 07/07/2018 09:12

He was an arse. Let him sulk next time like a toddler.

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LivinLaVidaLoki · 07/07/2018 09:16

I know I shouldn't have given in but this is the only thing I do as a 'class' with other people. When I work out I have programmes that my trainer has put together and I do it. I can put my music on and shut everyone else out. I feel strong and confident but when I am in a room full of people doing this I feel inadequate but I make myself go because I feel amazing afterwards and it is helping my general confidence bit by bit.

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Gabilan · 07/07/2018 09:18

So this man comes to the other weight, looks at mine and says "I think that's for me" and sulksabout it til I swap (didn't want to hold the class up).

As Pflt said, it was him holding the class up, not you. Lesson learned. If there's a next time, don't give in and make it clear it's his problem, not yours.

Strongmummy · 07/07/2018 09:18

Congrats on your weight loss. He’s a complete douche. If it happens again tell him “these are mine”

BlueBug45 · 07/07/2018 09:20

Next time do as @IrisAtwood says and stand your ground.

Puzzled why the instructor didn't set out both places with the same amount of weights. Some women can lift loads plus two people who can, could be on the same station at the same time. I would mention it to the gym.

supersop60 · 07/07/2018 09:22

Yes, he was a douche, but i think you are actually annoyed with yourself. you know what to do next time.
Congrats on weight loss too!

MsHomeSlice · 07/07/2018 09:24

just take it as a learning experience....if you are working on your confidence in a group then carry on but next time don't give him the weight, just carry on and he can take his turn or sort thing so there are appropriate weights for everyone.

onwards and upwards!!

BlueBug45 · 07/07/2018 09:27

OP worth finding another class you can go to in the week as well. The more classes you do per week like that the more comfortable you will get in telling people no they can't have equipment you are about to use or not to infringe your space.

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