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To feel unsupported by family

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MelrosePlaice · 06/07/2018 20:00

First time poster here on AIBU so prepared for some brutally honest (or just brutal) views...
I'm a new first time mum to a lovely little girl 6 months old. Even at the best of times my family (mainly talking about my siblings - older sisters no children) are not that involved in my life and vice versa. We get together as a family quite often as a lot of birthdays etc but rarely see them socially if not organised by my parents. I'm close to my parents but not to any of my siblings even though they are close of each other and do see each other socially and keep in touch. At family gatherings I mainly talk to my parents and excluded from their conversations. I do try my best especially with the arrival of my baby girl to keep in touch and to ask them around and out but I don't get much response apart of the odd response (just comments like she's such cute baby!). My relationship especially with my older sisters has never been that close but I guess it makes me sad to think I don't have their support and haven't done through having a baby including the pregnancy and birth (which was traumatic). Even my wedding was hampered with sibling tensions (which I won't go into!) I've had no offer of help or even just catching socially and it feels like one more occasion in my life where I just don't have that good family relationship. I know I can't change people and can reach out as much as I can but I can't force people to care. I don't really know what to do next apart of keep trying to be nice and keeping in touch but with no response. To add insult to injury, one of my siblings keeps posting pictures of my daughter on Facebook (I only check this ocassionally and seen these on the updates) with comments like I love my niece so much!!

Mumsnetters AIBU to feel a bit miserable about all of this? And what should I do?

OP posts:
NewYearNewMe18 · 06/07/2018 20:07

I'm close to my parents but not to any of my siblings even though they are close of each other and do see each other socially and keep in touch

Why are you different? are you the only girl? the oldest? the youngest? age gap difference? do you have different education standards? Were you the golden child? the spoiled one? There is always a reason unless of course, you're all just wildly indifferent to each other , as happens with siblings

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