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AIBU?

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to be done with this family member?

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AllINeed · 06/07/2018 18:12

I'm pregnant. I have a family member who is extremely self absorbed, gets upset because she thinks I talk to other family members more than her and don't involve her or call her enough etc etc etc. She wanted to come and visit me and I told her 'probably not right now. I'm having a pregnancy scare and am also having an amnio on Thursday but after I'm recovered would be nice' - no response. No good luck for the amnio. No 'I hope everything is ok'. Nothing. This was two weeks ago and I have heard that she is in a strop with me because I haven't been in touch over the past two weeks. She's 40 years old and still plays these silly mind games where if I don't phone her for a week she intentionally won't call me to see how long it will take for me to get in touch. It's just ridiculous. Quite frankly if I knew my close family member was having an amnio and potentially had issues with their pregnancy, I would want to wish them luck and give them all the time they need!

AIBU to want nothing to do with her anymore? She clearly doesn't care and I'm slowly realising this...

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AllINeed · 06/07/2018 18:16

I don't mean to get mad but anyone who knows the hell of waiting for test results knows how upset and frustrated it makes you feel and to know she's upset at me over something ridiculous whilst I'm going through this makes me so mad.

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Singlenotsingle · 06/07/2018 18:19

Yes, well, it's all about her, isn't it? You know that, silly girl! Shock

AllINeed · 06/07/2018 18:22

@Singlenotsingle I just don't understand this kind of behaviour. I'm completely drained by it.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 06/07/2018 18:25

I really hope your tests go well Flowers

SIL? She sounds a bloody nightmare. If she doesn’t contact you then leave her to it. Selfish cow.

AllINeed · 06/07/2018 18:26

@AnneLovesGilbert she is! I don't know what to do anymore I can't keep up.

Thank you. Fingers crossed.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 06/07/2018 18:35

I know it’s a naff cliche but is she jealous of you?

How does the man in the frame, brother or partner whomever’s related/married to her feel about her behaviour? I don’t blame you for finding it tiring.

YANBU to leave it, especially now when you’ve got so much on your plate. Try to spend time with people who care about you and give you something positive while you’re going through this.

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