To think if you arrange for wedding photos in a public park you shouldn't ask other park users to move?

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Reading this news story: www.heart.co.uk/lifestyle/relationships/bride-selfish-sunbather-ruins-wedding-photos/

I felt a bit sorry for sunbather being called selfish, publically shamed and in papers /on YouTube now.

Surely if you choose a public place for photos you can't be surprised not to have exclusive use?

They should have asked very nicely her to move, and offer her a glass of bubbly or something for the inconvenience. They are stupid if they expected an empty public park. They wanted a cheap day, but expected to bully others because of their number, I hate that attitude.

It's the same thing with people marrying on the beach. In an ideal world, they would be deserted, in real life there are tourist lounging in the background.

It remind me of parents who refuse to pay to reserve specific seats on a plane, because they expect others - who have paid- to move and let them seat together.

All these people think they are clever because they are getting something for free out of the kindness of strangers. Good to the sunbather not to have been intimidated.

As I said in the other thread, the bride & groom and their wedding party come across as cunts.
Which is some skill when you’re only telling your side of a story in which you think you’re the wronged party.

So it all depends if it was ....

"you need to move. We want to take photos. "

OR

"Hiya! Is there any chance you could move a few foot? We'd be ever so grateful, it's our wedding day, and someone will help you move your stuff. It's really appreciated, and if you like someone from the wedding party, will drop round a slice of wedding cake to you next week as a token of our appreciation"

YANBU they could have found another spot etc. Sunbather was there first and therefore entitled not to move. I happen to think the mumsnet mafia would have felt sorry for sunbather if she was pregnant and had several kids with her

I can’t open the link but what kind of person wouldn’t move away for wedding photos?

The kind of person who got there first, was comfortably settled, and was aware that it was a public park with plenty of other places for taking photos?

Could someone link to the other thread please? ,nosy>

The sunbather was being a selfish arse and the amount of people trying to defend her show just how many selfish arses there are in the world.

If you want exclusive use of a place, pay for it. Otherwise put up with other people being present.
They could have taken their pics elsewhere or come back later.

I can see both points.
Its a Public park.
The clue is right there in the name. However Morally she should have moved. It wouldn't have hurt her would it. Plus shes made a Holy show of herself. I guarantee she'll look back in 20 years and cringe.

What kind of mean-spirited person wouldn't move for a wedding? I realise it's a public space for ffs, it's not an everyday occurence. Selfish, selfish woman.

As long as she was asked politely it would have been considerate of her to move.

However we don't know her side of the story.

Just google it loads of stories come up

There again't though with the risk of sounding like an 11 year old. If she was there first why should she move.
Yes there were plenty of places where she could sunbathe. However there were also plenty of places they could have had their wedding photos taken. As ive previously alluded to its called a public park for a reason.

YourVagesty, have you missed the posts pointing out that the wedding party didn't ask the sunbather to move, they acted like entitled arseholes demanding that she do so?

What kind of selfish and unpleasant group choses a spot with someone already on it? They could have just put themselves in a quieter spot where they didn't bother anyone.

I can't believe how entitled and rude some people can be these days.

Someone may argue, though.
Is wanting to take over a park acting like an entitled Prince and Princess also selfish and entitled.

I got married on a beach in Jamaica and people pulled up chairs.

I got married in Central Park, NYC and when we kissed there was a round of applause. I hadn't realised but loads of people had stopped to watch us get married and it was lovely. Our wedding photos were taken around the park, in Times Square, Grand Central Station and on the subway. People congratulated us all over the city and I love seeing all the people bustling around in the background of our photos.

HOWEVER, I can't understand why you wouldn't move rather than be featured in a wedding photo in your bikini. The family didn't have to be rude but I personally would have moved straight away.

I suppose if you choose to get married in public. You have to toy with the fact that there is a very big chance that the public
will be there and some people are arse holes who don't care and to be fair to them they don't have to care.

We have a church next door. One wedding photographer asked me if I could move out of my own garden so he could use it as a backdrop for the wedding photos - not as a request before he started "we'd like to use your lovely garden ... would you mind..." but a peremptory "can you move out of the way please".

I hope you sent him packing MereDintofPandiculation! How rude.

It reminds me of tourists loudly complaining about cars parked in front of chocolate box cottages and spoiling their photos. How inconsiderate of the home owners to dare parking in front of their own home!

Publicly shamed...
If it was a shameful thing to do (and it was, she was being a dick), then she took the risk of her dickishness being made public when she did it.
Inserting your bikini clad arse into someone else’s wedding photos is the act of a moron.

but she didn't insert anything, she was just minding her own business when a group of rude individual try to intimidate her and make her leave.
Since when is it acceptable to bully people?

I paid £25 nearly 30 years ago to have my photos taken in the local park. DH thought it was polite to ask before hand and they wrote back asking for the money.
We had no problem with the people in the park except two of our little guests tried to end up in the lake I still remember a lovely lady coming up to me telling me I looked beautiful

I think even without being asked it would of been good manners to move slightly if you see someone’s taking photos and that you might be in the way.