to be annoyed that my close friends do not remember my birthday

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year after year?

And they make a big deal out of it, like it's a laughing matter that they can't seem to remember when my birthday is?

I took it in stride the first few times but they do it every year.

One just told me, when is your birthday, you know I don't remember.

I don't care if they greet me or not, but isn't it weird that they think it's amusing?

Cunts. My birthday was last weekend and nobody bothered.

My birthday was last weekend and nobody bothered.

Sorry to hear that. Belated happy birthday.

I'd prefer this over my friends stressing that they don't remember my birthday and actually think it's amusing, though.

I have a friend who always gets mine and her sisters birthday mixed up every year. Same month but mine is in the middle and her sisters is at then end. We have been friends for over 10 years. She a good friends in all other ways though so I forgive her.

I don’t mind so much that they don’t remember. It’s the thinking of it as amusing and telling it to me every single year that annoys me.

Copperbonnet -

I don’t know what you mean by sock puppeting. If I was rude to PP, sorry I didn’t intend to. But I really would prefer my friends to not bother over telling me and thinking it’s amusing that they don’t remember year after year.

Sock puppeting is when you respond to your own post, usually by name changing.

Your post at 2:52am appears to be replying to yourself. Which is odd to say the least.

Copperbonnet - I was replying to SallyVating.

And no, SallyVating isn’t me. What a strange thought. Lol. Do people do that regularly?

You can check with Mumsnet if it bothers you.

People feel differently about their birthdays - I really couldn't give a chuff if my friends send me a card or not, it's not how I rate my friendships, people have busy lives and there is enough to remember just getting kids to school, running a home, working, etc. If I want to celebrate, I'll organise to meet up for drinks or coffee and cake. I have one friend who is a bit scatty and we always make a joke about managing to get a card over to each other every other year.

If it really bothers you, I would contact them in the weeks running up to it and ask them if they fancy meeting up for your birthday. If they're good friends in other ways, this shouldn't be a big issue.

Again, I don’t mind that they don’t remember my birthday.

What annoys me is year after year, on July, they make it a big deal that they don’t remember the exact date of my birthday and they tell me. And they find it so amusing that they don’t remember.

I dont remember the exact date of anyone's birthday outside of my family. With some friends i remember the month but not the date. I don't expect them to remember mine either. Maybe they male a joke out of it because it seems a bit thing to you and they're a bit embarrassed.

This frankly is what Facebook is for. I have a much higher success rate with people whose birthdays are listed on fb.

Either lighten up and join in the joke or tell them it bothers you and remind them of the date two weeks before.

My birthday was last weekend too, and save a couple of family members my friends didn't remember either. Apparently it's my fault for not having my birthday up on fb

The making a big deal of it is weird though. I would either be straight with them and say 'look, I'm fine if you forget my birthday but making a joke out of it as if I'm not important enough to bother remembering about is not okay'. Or next year make a big deal of inviting people out for drinks to celebrate your birthday so they can't forget.

Happy birthday though :-)

Mine never remember mine either. I have all of theirs in my diary and remember them all.

My birthday was last week. The only person to get me anything was my mum. My sister, who is my twin so also had a birthday, text me and said she'd "get me something at some point"..

Is it an age thing? I'm 40 and barely remember my birthday myself let alone expect others to remember.

What are you about Cooperbonnet? Accusing someone's of sock puppet if I say no better than troll hunting.

The making a big deal of it is weird though.

And they do it every year, every July. I took it in stride but it's really getting to be so annoying. I don't know what's so funny about it.