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To bring this up with person I'm dating from Tinder?

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Arghhhhhelp · 05/07/2018 14:44

Have been dating guy for 6 weeks now, all going very well. See each other regularly. Seems really into me and I feel the same, has been really sweet to me. keeps inviting me to hang out with his friends, saying that he's in this for the long run etc.. We're not official but I thought we were exclusive. (He said to me recently he's all mine and I'm all his) Although to be fair this wasn't concrete, I guess. He also said recently he has cancelled his Tinder subscription. A few days ago he was over at mine and his phone flashed and I could see he had a Tinder notification. On Tinder you can tell where someone was last active from how far their distance is away from yours. So as soon as he left I decided to check when he was active, sure enough he had been on Tinder when he was at my house, I was really upset but felt like I was being too crazy to mention anything, but since then I can't help but check his Tinder constantly and he's on it practically all day. I'm too embarrassed to bring it up because I feel like I sound crazy for how short we've been dating, but also I don't want to invest any more effort into this if he's searching elsewhere. Will he think I'm crazy if I bring this up, or should I wait to confirm exclusiveity and if he's still on Tinder at that point then just bin him off? God all this dating malarkey is driving me crazy

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deedee56 · 05/07/2018 16:08

Bin him. If you can't trust him now, what will the future bring. Have just been in a similar situ.Met guy on Match, 3 dates in he 'knew' I was the one for him.Cut a long story short,several weeks in when he was virtually living at mine, he 'favourited' a friend of mine.Look on his face when asked about this said it all.So, chucked it in the 'fuck it' bucket and moved on.Total disrespect.OP you, we, all deserve better.

Iamtryingtobenicehere · 05/07/2018 16:48

Sweetheart, we’ve all dated that ‘super nice guy’ that everyone else loves, but 99times out of 100 he will be a toser , leading you on. This guy has already proved he is not to be trusted.

I highly recommend you beg, borrow or steal a copy of a book called Never be lied to again. It really is a life changer. (Just checked, it’s available on audiobooks for free for new subs.

He is playing you, I’m sorry and I know it’s awful when he seems to be so into you, but he is playing you until he thinks something better is available. Any chance of you enlisting a friend to ‘contact’ him when he is with you, see what pans out?

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