Stinky miserable DH

[Grrrrrrrrrr3]

I was in a good mood this evening, had a run on treadmill which helped me get rid of stresses of day, nice shower, just sitting down to do some work on computer when DH comes home. He's dripping with sweat, stinks (properly stinks) - not his fault, but cos he cycled home from station. He is also v v miserable, grumpy.

Don't get me wrong, I love him immensely, but wish he'd shower as soon as he gets in, and smile every once in a while. Now I feel stressed he's hanging about looking miserable and tired and stinking and I wish he'd just go get a shower, so I can get myself a glass of wine and feel happy again!

Grrrrrrr

You look tired DH, why don’t you jump in the shower while I do you some food / cuppa / glass of wine? Normally works in my house.

I saw your thread title and thought I had written it and forgotten! Drives me mad as my H is the same. I think his lack of personal hygiene is really disrespectful towards the family actually.....my H is also incredibly morose :(

At least we're not alone GothMummy! I've got my wine now! (But still no sign of shower ...)!

Tell him flat out he stinks and to go get in the fucking shower. How would HE like it if you walked around stinking like a pig and miserable? FFS it's like he's 3 years old.

Just tell him. There is no reason why you should put up with his poor personal hygiene and grumpiness. He would feel much happier anyway if he had a shower.

I tell my DH to shower after he has been for a bike ride because that outdoor sweaty smell actually makes me feel sick. It didn’t use to, but then when I fell pregnant nearly 4 years ago that outdoor sweat smell made me feel really sick, and has continued to this day even though my DD is 3. Weird.
YANBU to say something gently. My DH doesn’t mind, he laughs it off and now (only just recently) he goes straight into the shower without me asking.
Mind, it works both ways - if I go out and do a long walk/jog, I go straight into the shower upon my return home. It’s only fair
I hope you managed to have your glass of wine!

Offer to run him a bath =relaxed and clean!

@llioed does outdoor sweat have a different smell?

I could have written this...DH commutes by bike and comes home stinking, and while he does shower straight away, his stinky clothes, which are soaking wet, sit in our laundry basket to faster. He now sometimes puts them in the bathroom to dry, but that just stinks out the bathroom. Why do they smell so pungent? One of our sons has inherited the stink, but the other hasn’t.

Yep i must chose stinky guys-had a couple..1who'd finish after 6hours sweatin his arse off as kitchen porter..cycle home&try&then "put out the feelers"..smelling like a sweaty old pig bin&pissed off with me for writing notes on fridge&wiperboard to remind him..by the time the "no sex with filthy pig"message finally sunk in so had my hatred of this stinking,selfish,stroppy manchild so he got the boot..another would play footie/go training-go pub after(stil no shower)&come home &just clumb into bed..that didnt last coz he insisted i had obsession with cleanliness&figured Lynx was as good as water...f#@king grosd

.my H is also incredibly morose sad

Could he be depressed?

Eww I couldn't cope with this. My Dh has a very physical job, but always jumps in the shower when he gets in (no matter how late it is). My sons do too.....I wouldn't have it any other way. Tell him op.

My th cycles 13 miles a day. He dumps his stuff in the utility room and it smells like Shergar died in there. Muddy t shirts absolutely sodden with sweat just leaking on the floor.
I put them in a separate plastic bag. He washes his own stuff but the smell. Not human sometumes

@JennyBlueWren

It does to me, which I know people may find strange. Normal sweat smells too, but the combination of being outdoors plus sweat makes a more enhanced sweaty smell...

My DH has a bike set up in our conservatory and the sweat smell isn’t as bad when he finishes that. But when he has been outside - yep, definitely different!

Mine is sort of the same, but with smelly trainers. He comes in from work and they stink! You know that damp sort of smell that doesn't go away?

They've even got a hole in them, but he refuses to throw them away! It's not even a financial issue - he said even if we were millionaires, he'd keep them until they'd fallen apart. Madness.

Cat have you tried odoreaters insoles?

He dumps his stuff in the utility room and it smells like Shergar died in there

My other half stunk and didn't even have the excuse of cycling.
I found the cure for it eventually - divorce. When he occasionally
visits my house he's scrubbed up all shiny and sparkling like a new pin. Too late.

I never minded the smell of ex's sweat. Didn't like the smell of his trainers, they had to be put outside in the summer. But sweat, no. Some people's smells vile though. I think it's a monkey-tribe thing.

You need some of that Dettol laundry stuff. Once sports kit gets stinky you need to use something to properly kill the bacteria or it just starts to smell again as soon as you put it on.

XH came from a family of sweaty Bettys. He only showered when at home if he was going somewhere - usually the pub - or if we were having visitors, when he would then bugger off - to the pub! Otherwise he rarely bothered, no matter what I said. He couldn't smell himself, he said, so it didn't bother him. I am now hyper-sensitive that I might smell. I don't miss the sweaty smell in bed, either.