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Is this a bit strange??

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hotmessmom82 · 04/07/2018 22:50

My partner is a fair bit younger than me (11 years) and most of the mums at school I speak to are around his age. Some do know him as he loves taking my eldest to school when possible. Now out of the blue one of the mums messages him about random bs. It doesn't bother me tbh but I mentioned it to a friend and she feels it's a bit dodgy. Then I realised the person who had contacted him had also messaged me earlier saying how happy we are, but I didn't take any notice. I don't know if I need to be wary haha

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toooooo · 04/07/2018 22:51

what did the message to him say?

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 04/07/2018 22:54

What do you mean, messaged you earlier telling you how happy you are?Hmm

DextroDependant · 04/07/2018 22:54

What did the message to you say and the message to him?

Did either of you know her previously?

melse2964 · 04/07/2018 22:56

Bit weird whys he gave her his number

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hotmessmom82 · 04/07/2018 22:59

I don't have Facebook and I have no idea how she knows his surname. The messages were pretty innocent but at the same time she was messaging him she was whatsapping me. But never once mentioned it. He is a bit weirded out and immediately told me because he's just that type of person.

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Chocolate50 · 04/07/2018 23:00

maybe this person is just lonely and thinks you're both friendly and look happy, so they want to be friends

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hotmessmom82 · 04/07/2018 23:00

It was via Facebook.

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DextroDependant · 04/07/2018 23:04

Sounds like she is testing the water to me. See if he mentions it, whilst befriending the partner so that it looks innocent.

Or maybe I have a cynical mind.

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 04/07/2018 23:07

I would definitely approach the wife if I was trying to be friendly. It feels like she’s trying her luck with him but playing it safe by messaging you too - if he is not interested and tells you about her messages she has messaged you too, so you won’t be as suspicious...

The fact he told you though should put you totally at ease!

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 04/07/2018 23:07

@Dextrodependant guess we both are then! Grin

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hotmessmom82 · 04/07/2018 23:10

I know He is totally against cheating on any sense. I just find it a bit strange. I have know her about 3 years. Had her children come play many times. Even had them all sleep over. I just don't get it.

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Lemontwist · 04/07/2018 23:11

Hard to say without knowing the details of the messages but if it helps I'm equally friendly with some of the dads who do the school drop off regularly as I am the mums.
I'm fb friends with a couple of them from getting to know them through kids parties etc.

DextroDependant · 04/07/2018 23:22

Glad it's not just me @gonnabreakmyrustycage.

I am friendly with some of the dad's on the school run and have them as Facebook friends but I don't send them messages because I respect their marriages. If I had something to say I would say it in person at school or comment on the status/picture out in the open and above board.

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