Am I being uptight?

[whoopsiedaisies]

I probably am.

First night out tonight without 9mo DS and DP. Was sort of secretly looking forwards to DP finding out what hard work the baby is, but of course he went to bed perfectly at 8pm and DP has been chilling ever since. Lucky thing.

I've come back in and babies toys are still all over the floor, kitchen a mess, bins not taken out, bath water still in bath, empty dirty plates on the floor in the living room, babies high chair grubby and DH lounging on the sofa. AIBU for just this once to have wanted to come in and someone else had done the clear up job. Just this once! Arghhhh

Nope but some people are lazy buggers. You may need to specifically tell your dh what entails looking after the baby. Whst you do and what you expect him to do.

I know posters will come on saying he should know but if you normally do it he probably didn’t register.

Tell him what needs doing, and go to bed.

YANBU... You need to have a serious chat with dh and make it clear its not ok to leave the house in that state and he has to pull his weight.

If you let this go now it will continue. I wouldnt be cleaning uo the mess either, make him do it.

You got a night out, what are you complaining about?

Don’t spoil your lovely night out with a row. Write him a quick list, hand it to him on your way to bed. All the things that need doing DURING the looking after baby session, or immediately after. Include the tasks that have to do with setting up for the next session.

And the cup of tea in bed that’d show he appreciated you and what you’ve been doing for 9 months (and the 9 before that).

@walkingdead and why shouldn't she have a night out?? Why are you acting like her hubby did her a favour by letting her out of the house and looking after his own child??

You sound very bitter

Poptart4 , I was agreeing that op having a night out should be a normal acceptable event. ie nothing to make a fuss about.

That's awful he should do all normal stuff associated with the children. He is not. Baby sitter he is their parent. Oh and if he says you never told me ... you are not his mother he should be grown up enough to notice. And don't thank him for looking after the baby unless he does this when you do.

Walking

A night out Is normal for most mums. If you see it as such a treat then that’s a tad sad!

planetclom

It’s not awful it’s fixable and op needs to spell it out and get results.

Has he cleaned up op?

Really? There are adults in the world that don't realise you need to empty a bath once the occupant had vacated it? Such tragically low standards people have- my husband isn't perfect but he stops far short of leaving plates in the floor and baths unemptied even if I am not they to point out the fucking obvious fact that they need doing!