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Collection for teacher!

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Booie09 · 04/07/2018 19:25

We do a end of year class collection any way it was decided that you could give between £5 and £10, one of the mums doing the collection is moaning that most people are only putting in £5 And it's not enough for the gift she wants to get, I've not given yet but it's put me off putting in aibu to just buy my own present! Also I was going to spend more on the TA because she looks after my daughters health needs daily.

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bluemoonchances · 04/07/2018 23:41

In addition to what others have said , spa voucher may be expensive and not appreciated.

If it must be spa vouchers then
A. Make sure you find out the specific one she likes to go to (there's a few near me that are prestigious but only one of them I really enjoy and look forward going to... I'd be disappointed to receive vouchers for the others because I'd rather be at my favourite)

B. A spa day for 1 is a waste as who wants to go to a spa day alone? need to get spa day for two people so that she can invite a friend.

In short, spa day might seem nice idea but actually may be a waste of money.

kissmelittleass · 05/07/2018 00:34

Yanbu our primary schools finished for summer nearly 2 weeks ago and about a week before school ended I was added onto a WhatsApp class group asking all parents to contribute €10 as to buy a voucher for the class teacher as a end of school gift! I thought it was very cheeky and dd had already made a card and we had bought a present. I thought it was so out there to ask for a minimum of €10 !! I deleted the WhatsApp group and dd just gave her gift we bought and I don't care what the other mums thought!! Do the same op the teachers don't want us under such pressure!

Fucksgiven · 05/07/2018 00:40

Don't teachers get a salary? Why the gifts?

ScattyCharly · 05/07/2018 00:47

You could give £7

Just also to add, some people don’t like spas. I’d do generic vouchers.

KnowYourOnions · 05/07/2018 06:40

Don't teachers get a salary? Why the gifts?

In recognition that some people go over and above what they’re paid for and as thanks for doing a hard job. It’s not rocket science.

Saying that, I’m not a fan of spa days and I hate the pressure on parents to stump up for a group collection like this. Don’t pay and don’t worry op.

dottypotter · 05/07/2018 16:13

all contributions should be voluntary and also anonoymous people shouldnt know what you put in so you might tell her she is doing it wrong.

MarklahMarklah · 05/07/2018 16:26

I do class collections and she's got a bloody cheek.
I send a 'round robin' to parents/carers to say that I'll be doing a collection with a card, for the teacher, TA, etc. I make it very clear that there is no minimum contribution nor any obligation to contribute. I write the card from everyone, regardless of whether they have donated any money toward a gift as all the children want to thank staff.
Some years everyone contributes, some years it's about half. Last time I bought gift vouchers for a particular shop but I had already asked the teacher, theoretically, what she'd like if getting a thankyou gift.

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