To do DS' friend this favour??

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DS (13) and his best friend at school play Fortnite. His friend's parents do not allow him to buy anything Fortnite related (Battle passes and what have you). I leave DS to buy whatever he wants with his birthday/xmas/pocket money.

So DS asks me if his friend can give me £20 and can I pay for some Fortnite thing. He caught me when I was really tired and I agreed without asking questions. Later I find out the reason behind it and obviously not pleased because it makes me complicit.

DS is begging me to do this favour for his friend. He says he could have lied and made up a story in order to get me to buy this Fortnite thing but we have a good relationship and according to him he has never lied to me.

I don't know the parents, I've said hello once or twice. AIBU to just do this one-off thing?

I'm not sure it's relevant but the friend is a super high achieving gifted/talented student who never gets into trouble and money is also not an issue - they're a very rich family. I really don't see the harm myself but obviously not my call.

Nope you can't.

It’s not your kid, not your call.

No. His. Parents don't allow him to spend money on it and you would be specifically aiding him to go behind their back and do something they allow him not to do.

It's like if they were off to a party and DS was allowed to take a bottle of alcohol but friend wasn't. Would you buy him one?

YWBVU.

Erm no! His parents have decided not to because they don't want him to have access to such things. You have no right to go against that.

Of course you can't.

No!

How come your son hasn't bought it for him?

Obviously you're pleased he was honesty, but that doesn't automatically mean you have to do as he asks. It would be unfair to go against his parents wishes and could land him in serious trouble with them when they inevitably fall out.
The fact he could have lied makes no difference - when you eventually found out he'd lied he'd have lost HIS access to Fortnite so his honesty has brought him no punishment.

No, you really can't.

How would you feel if the situation was reversed?

No you can’t.

I don't think I would for fortnite tbh, if they have money there's likely a specific reason they don't want him buying things. Maybe it's simply that they don't want him wasting money on it, maybe something else.

Having said that, a friend of dd's is lesbian and her parents aren't at all accepting of that. She really wanted a pride flag so asked dd to give me the money if I would buy it for her so it wouldn't be delivered to her house and be confiscated at the door. And I did. So maybe that's a bit hypocritical but pride flags aren't violent or something in a virtual world so perhaps not.

How come your son hasn't bought it for him? Because you need to pay online using paypal/debit card.

You're all right, I think I was a bit blindsided by the honesty thing.

I've told DS no and he is on the phone to his friend now, they are trying to hatch another plan. DS told me to 'live a little'

Ncforthisonenow interesting! Where do we draw the line?