DH and holidays

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Now bear with me because I have a newborn and a toddler and I might possibly be acting unreasonably.

My DH and I had planned to go away with the kids at the end of September. He has booked the time off work but the holiday itself HAS NOT been booked. Anyway I was at my parents today and they reminded me that we have family arriving from the US the same week my husband has booked off. I’ve just had a baby and my head is all over the place - I thought my family were arriving a week later.

Anyway I texted him and explained the situation- apologised for fucking up the dates and asked him to change the date of his holidays. His response was that he wasn’t going to change the date of his holidays and he just wasn’t going to go on holiday anymore.

Surely this is childish behaviour? If the tables had been turned I may have rolled my eyes and emailed my boss. The time off is more than two months away and could be easily changed. Also the price of the holiday is no different if we go away a week later and it’s not even been booked!!!!

Surely IANBU!?

No you're not BU but he is and weird and over-reacty

Maybe he already had to ask other people to change dates to accommodate his dates and he doesn't want to have to go back and rearrange and look like an idiot/entitled twat.

Maybe he has just had a bad moment and by the time he gets home he'll have changed the dates.

Maybe he never wanted to go away/can't afford it and you have given him an out.

Why does the family from the US have to trump yours and HIS holiday?

I did think he was being weird about it.

I went nuclear over text which may not have been the best strategy but I am raging he is being so ridiculous

reservoir

If it were his family arriving from abroad and he wanted to see them I’d oblige and rearrange.

Also, how unusual is it to change the date of a holiday? I work in management and do it for people frequently when plans change.

Also, he has to give 5 weeks notice of a holiday as that’s how long in advance his work is planned. We’re well clear of that.

No point in arguing over text. Just wait until he gets home and have an actual adult conversation. You might find out it’s not quite so easy as just changing the dates. It wouldn’t be where I work.

Why does the family from the US have to trump yours and HIS holiday?
What an odd thing to say, clearly the plan was to do both things, see the family and go on holiday but the OP made a mistake with the dates?