AIBU to take the batteries out and hide the TV remotes for my dd's 1st birthday party?

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So my eldest's first birthday, everybody left halfway through the cake to go and watch a Euro match.

This year we have already had to readjust the date of our youngest's birthday because someone decided to arrange their 31st birthday piss up on the original date.

Now England is through to the quarter-finals and guess what - it's the same date and time as her birthday party.

It's mainly close family and friends coming, but I know my BIL is going to just walk off from the garden BBQ and turn our TV on without asking.
We are having a garden BBQ because husband hates people being in our house and touching our things - mainly because my BIL walks in and turns our TV on without asking so much....

I know we've not been in the quarter-finals for years but how many first birthday parties is she going to get?

I think we're just going to cancel.

Wise move. No baby remembers their first birthday, you would remember it for the cancellations and those present would remember it for not being able to watch the match.

If you take the batteries out of the remote you will look like a right misery guts!! Do you want people to come to yours for a good time or just to focus on your child? If it's the latter, I'm afraid that most people won't want to fuss over a baby for more than a few minutes. If a Royal Wedding clashed with her birthday, would you expect everyone to not watch that too? If I was you I would either change day of party or else have TV on for those who want to watch.

Can you change the time so that you start the party after or before the match? It's less than 2 hours of the day in total. If not, I'd either cancel or put up with the TV. I'm not a football fan but it's a big thing for many people and they will want to watch. If you hide the remote, most people know that there are buttons on the tv somewhere.

good call to cancel.

have you actually SAID anything to BIL about his rudeness?

Also meant to say that if England win it will make it one of those memorable things to look back on when your dc is older.

I think that's pretty crap their grandparent can't be bothered because there is a football match on that being said I can understand peopled desires to watch it too

Cancelling seems a good choice. Do you really want a garden full of people who aren’t really ‘there’ because their minds are on the football they are missing?

I wouldn’t expect my mother in law to say she’s not coming because she’d rather watch football though!! That’s a bit off!!

I think if you can't stick the TV on somewhere and relax on the day realising that the world isn't all about your 1yo then cancelling is the best option.

I know we've not been in the quarter-finals for years but how many first birthday parties is she going to get?

Seriously?

There isn't really much point having a birthday party for a one year old, she won't know what is going on.

Of course, you might want to celebrate yourself - fair enough. But I think the simplest thing is to just leave the TV on inside and then anyone who is interested can pop inside and the rest of you sit in the garden. At least then you will have everyone on the premises.

Oh what a shame that a grandparent is declining their GCs first bday party to watch a football match

Take the fuse out of the plug.

Change the time of the party . Your child is one, they won’t have a notion what’s going on.

And you sound far too uptight to have a party at home anyway; putting the guests in the garden - not because it’s nice weather, but because you don’t want them in the house!
Will they be allowed in to use the facilities? Sounds like a right laugh. Not.

The weirdest person in this story seems to be your DH to me. You can't ask people over and not let them in the house! If BIL wants to watch the footie let him, he's a it hurting anyone.

First birthday parties are ridiculous anyway, I can't imagine BIL is looking for forward to it. When did "hospitality" start being all about the hosts rather than the guests?

My Mil once cancelled a visit to us because there was a wedding on Neighbours!

Also unplug the WiFi

It's a first birthday party. The adults aren't going to spend it staring at the baby or playing party games if the football wasn't there -- they'd be socialising and talking amongst themselves anyway.

Just let them have the football on!

Fucking ridiculous - thank God you've seen sense and cancelled.

Your child is one! They will have no idea what a birthday is! Let people watch the match if they want ...

Just have the TV on during the party. My friend’s son had his birthday party the day Andy Murray won Wimbledon for the first time. It was really fun, and we’ll all remember that particular party forever.

If you want everyone to leave just before kick off, or not come at all, its a great plan

Aren't 1st birthday parties for the grown ups. A one year old hasn't got a clue whats happening.
Won't 1 year old be sleeping much of the time anyway, especially in this weather.

Bil just wandering into your home without asking is a different issue.

Rearrange the party. She still gets one; you don't have to fight with the World Cup.

Yabu... i had a tv on during my wedding day (albeit on mute!). Happpy guests make happy hosts.

How weird not to allow people into your house. Great hospitality.

Gillubeanz, he's not wandering into the house without asking, he's be invited but then not expected to go in the house