To be bit upset?

[Bragado]

Best friend has new bf. Haven’t seen her in a couple of months and she postponed our last week as knackered after long haul work trip then family commitments. She was meant to come to me (2 hour train trip) but spent the weekend with bf in pub and relaxing. I do get that she was exhausted and didn’t want to travel but feel weird about this aibu

YANBU she should have made the effort or alternative arrangements

We have postponed to next available opportunity...

You're not being unreasonable. BUT new relationships can be pretty intense. It may cool down quite soon and she will be back to normal.

She has also taken 2 weeks of 4 weeks hol allowance to do stuff with him. Leaving 4 days for us, her friends :s

YABabitU. It's what happens as people partner up.

For many people, there's a time in your life when friends are the main focus but people move on and then it's partners followed by family.

I haven’t seen my friend for a while because of a new relationship, it’s funny because he fell out with me because we didn’t include him in our dates (the three of us were friends before we got together) I’m happy for him and know once the honeymoon period is over you’ll be invited into the relationship. They are just in a bubble. Things do change from single to being in a relationship though. Be happy for them (not suggesting your not) and it won’t be long. I do understand there may be a void at this moment

That's life Bragado, she probably expects you to understand.
Who knows, this may be the real deal for her. You'll still be friends.

I do understand and I am happy for her. But relationships and friends aren’t mutually exclusive! They see each other allvthe time, she’s like a sister to me

I totally agree with you, perhaps maybe meet halfway? It is some distance! Or even suggest that you would like to meet her new boyfriend and make a day of it. It will calm down

Perhaps you could travel up to her and meet her new boyfriend? I'm not sure why you feel weird about her wanting to spend tie with him, it's what happens at the beginning of a relationship, you want to be together all the time!

Sounds like she's had a lot going on recently, which explains why she bailed on you. I would certainly balk at the prospect of a 4-hour round trip on a train soon after a long haul work trip, not to mention the family commitments as well. As well as being knackered and in need of a day with no travelling, her new bf is going to be pretty high up her list of priorities (as yours would be if the situation was reversed) which inevitably means that friends slip down a level. But that needn't mean you can't still hang out. A 2-hr journey is too much to do very often. Could you maybe get into a routine of meeting up every couple of months at a halfway point, as Jeni suggested? In between meeting up, keep in touch as often as you can by text or Whatsapp. That tends to be the way things end up going as you get older, from what I've seen. Especially when you have long-distance friendships. It doesn't mean your any less fond of each other - you just need to adjust to the changing pace of your lives. Good friends always find a way to make it work.