Asking my mum to be with me on the morning of my wedding day?

[Blueelvis]

Hi all, I am new here. I am feeling upset and perplexed about an argument I had with my mum last night. Basically I have asked her to stay over the night before and be with me and my daughter (my flower girl who is under 2) the morning of my wedding day. She has made various excuses over the past months as to why she can't/won't, such as having to store her overnight bag somewhere, not wanting to carry her make up bag around with her, wanting to get her hair done, of which I have found solutions for. Now however she has arranged to have her hair done at 10:30 and will be with me and my daughter by 12:00, when my make up artist is arriving. Some of my family members are not supportive of my wedding and are not attending such as my dad, therefore I have asked my mum to give me away and join me in the wedding car. I envisaged a nice relaxed morning with quality mother/daughter/granddaughter time, this is now not to be. I have expressed the upset this causes me, to be told that I am emotionally blackmailing her! Am I being unreasonable to ask my mum to be with me. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Not that it will make any difference as she has made her stand, just wanted to know if I am being selfish in wanting this.

Can't your partner look after your daughter in the morning while you get ready?

Maybe your mum doesn't want to be Babysitter and wants to get ready alone.

Just for the record my fiance has never been physical or violent with me. Thank you all for your comments. Needless to say my fiance won't be seeing me on the morning of the wedding. He will be getting ready with his brother and our two sons. My youngest daughter is my flower girl, my eldest declined the position of bridesmaid, teenage purrogative. I have now said to my mum to do what she is happy with and feels comfortable with doing. I have asked if she is in fact happy to walk me down the aisle and come in the wedding car and given her the option of meeting at the castle (half way between us) if not wanting to come the hour journey to wait for my hair and make up to be done. She has said she is happy to do these things. So a happy medium has been met. Fingers crossed the next 6 weeks and the big day go smoothly.

Glad you’ve sorted it with your mum. I don’t think either of you are being U here. It’s natural that you want things to be how you always imagined they would be on your wedding day, but it sounds as if the history with your fiancé and the views of your family towards him, complicates things a bit.

Good luck with the big day op .