Share the love for MILs

[MrsMotherHen]

MILs get a real bad rep on here so let's hear some nice things! Mine is brilliant! yes she can have her moments but in the grand scheme of things she is fantastic.

Today she picked me up from my night shift am shatterd having to pick up an extra night in work a week so do 36hrs a week just so can have a bit of spare cash and still be able to pay nursery fees. I don't expect her to have our children or look after them they are mine or have never asked her too so they go nursery.

The 3 nights are killing me off slowly I have become a more "shouty mum" which I hate, my marriage has taken a hit because am a cranky bitch all the time because am so shatterd......so anyway she picks me up today and suggests to me that I can drop a night shift in work and instead of taking the youngest into nursery (eldest is 30hrs free) she will have her saving me the nursery fees and giving me back some sainity. I could happily cope with the 2 nights the 3rd just pushed me over the edge.

Not all MILs are so bad.

AIBU to share some MIL love?

aww, I don't have a MIL she died when my DH was a teenager but his sister in law is a gem and apparently they were very alike so I'm sure I would have loved her too

I love my MiL and FiL! Yeah, she drives me bonkers sometimes with her incessant chattering and odd ways but she has been fantastic in the breakdown of my marriage. I'm living with them at the moment rent free as I'm not working (I buy the food, do the cooking, some babysitting for DNs and some housework before I get accused of freeloading!). We've had our moments and small disagreements in the past but she's on the whole pretty reasonable.

She also accepts that her son is a bit of a mess and has issues; she's been very fair throughout the whole ordeal.

his sister/my sister in law I mean *

Mine is an absolute dream. She's one of the loveliest, kindest and most generous people I know. She and my FIL helped us financially when we were younger in a way that was really life changing for us. She is openly proud of my accomplishments and is interested in my job and hobbies. She would do any favour you asked of her in a heartbeat. She's always planning fun trips or days out for us, and she gives amazing gifts. She's so kind and unjudgmental. My DH really got his character from her and she's done a good job with him!

She really makes me try to be the best DIL possible to live up to her. I feel so sorry for people whose MILs are dire, as it must be so stressful and upsetting. I really count my blessings with mine.

My MIL held me together while my DD had cancer. Amazing, strong lady.

I am very lucky. Have a wonderful mil and they are a wonderful family. Couldn't ask for better.

I like mine. We’re not close as we’re both quite quiet people who prefer to be alone but she’s cool.

My MIL was a lovely, kind, amazing lady. She died just over a year ago at age 96 and we miss her every day.

these are lovely to read

I love my mil too. She’s great with dds, and is the first to offer to have them even though she’s 4 hours drive away. She helped when dds were babies. She’s forever inviting us to hers, which we love going to as she’s near a beach.

I love my MIL. She's an absolute gem. My FIl is just as awesome too. My husband and I are both very lucky when it comes to loving and supportive parents.

Mine is lovely. Her cooking is awful. Apart from that, there is nothing negative to say about her
She’s kind, loving, generous, never interferes and always wants to spend time with her grandchildren.

My MIL made a 2hr round trip to collect my DS when I had norovirus. She made a 2hr round trip to drop him off again in the evening as I wasn’t ready to be away from him overnight. I am very very lucky!

My MIL is ace. I love her. She has welcomed me into her family, she looks out for me, we have a laugh together.

I really hope I can do her proud if I ever become a MIL.

My Mil has her moments as I do but she is the best. She is a retired GP and can be quite dogmatic and extremely calm at times when I think she should be screaming her head off but she treats me like the daughter she never had and has helped me through the toughest of times. I love her 😊😊😊 She is about to gain another dil and me a sil and I'm a bit envious as I now need to share her 😜

My MiL is brilliant. She's not well enough to do regular child care (not that I'd expect it tbh) but she will help in an emergency and will quite often have ds overnight (by quite often, I mean around once every 2-3 months) to give dh and me a date night.

She arranges days out for the family, and recently she's started to arrange to do things with just me (we have some similar interests), which is great.

She's kind, thoughtful and loving towards the whole family.

Her exdh on the other hand is an absolute bell-end (he cheated on her multiple times, was financially abusive to her and was emotionally abusive to my dh when he was a child/teenager). Mil's 'new' (lol, 10+ years) partner is a better granddad to my ds than his real one ever will be (my df sadly passed away before any gc arrived). It's such a shame, but so lovely that there is at least one decent gf figure in my ds's life.

My mil is fabulous. She has 2 sons and now 2 daughters with me and my sil. We are very close and I'd be lost without her. I also have 2 sons and I hope I can be as good a mil as she is when the time comes.

My MIL is lovely. Last time DH spoke to her she asked him to tell me how much she loves me❤️!

I hope my dil posts! my mil was ace and we miss her terribly.

I have my grandchildren 2 days a week, we help with nursery fees, we love our dils to bits, we have the grandkids overnight at least twice a month, we are planning a surprise spa night hotel for her birthday with ds. we fill their fridge and freezer wen they go on holiday.

My mil is awesome. She is is supportive, involved but knows where to draw the line, fun, accepting and independent.

My own mother is a total nightmare!

My MIL is great—she’s from Queens NY, so a real straight shooter, but she has a great heart, and is an interesting, strong woman.

Mine is lovely. Helps us if we need, adores the kids and thinks of them all the time, but doesn't take over or criticise us ever. She is a nice person and someone I like spending time with. I feel lucky to have a MIL I like when I read some of the stories on here.

Lovely thread OP. My MIL is one of the kindest, smartest and most hilarious people I've ever met. She lives a flight away we don't see her as often as I'd like. Her siblings and their partners are fab too, and treat me as part of their family.

Mine is amazing. Both my IL’s are- lovely, kind, generous and uncomplicated without any of the odd ‘quirks’ I read about on these boards! I genuinely count my blessings to have them, especially in comparison to some stories I hear!

I will also add that they are total relationship goals. 30 years married and so in love, they still go on a weekly date night and love nothing more than sitting together, drinking wine and chatting into the early hours. I once popped out to the loo around midnight on one of their date nights (when I was staying over back when DP lived at home) and found them slow dancing in the lounge! Just lovely to see. I always tell DP how lucky he is to have 2 parents so madly in love- he takes it for granted!!

My mil is great. In laws are very generous and helpful, they've really saved us before. However it's not always been this easy and we've butted heads a few times in the past but now understand each other.
I think people are sometimes overly harsh to their in-laws, like the threads where people moan about mil buying too many clothes/toys or cleaning their house when they aren't in. Those threads amaze me!