To Not Like this Woman

[IgamOgamJones]

I was close friends, best friends even, with a woman who I now don't think is a nice person. We used to hang out a lot and have such a laugh, then, at a party I met a man that she used to be interested in and she stopped speaking to me, ignored me and one time shouted at my young daughter something about me and this man. The man and I were together for a few years after that. I saw my old friend one day in the street and we started chatting and started hanging out together again only this time around I noticed things which made me feel uncomfortable, things she said and demands made on my time. In the weeks leading up to her birthday she told me about her plans and I made plans to see my new man on her birthday. So, the day comes around and I'm off out with my man and I get a phone call from my friend. She says she needs me to stay up all night partying with her as it's her bday, I say that I'm out with my fiance and she shouts that I'm boring and hangs up. Nothing unusual there. Anyhoo, when I get home the next day I ring her, no answer, text, no answer. Drive round to her place, no one home, leave pressies for her for when she gets home. About a week later I get a long message about how I let her down and she needs to rethink the friendship and she is always there for friends and family and no one is ever there for her. I say I'm sorry she feels like that and hope to catch up soon, I notice I'm blocked on Facebook too. If she had not told me that she had plans on her bday I would have made some with her, but instead I made plans with someone else and I feel I was expected to drop them and drive to her place. I haven't seen her for ages now, since October, until a couple of days ago, I passed her on the street, said 'Hiya, how you doing?' got a gritted teeth response and felt anxious even though I really don't think I have done anything wrong. Life is calmer without her in it, but I do kind of dread seeing her, she is the type of person [who is always right and has done this before] to shout at people in the street if she feels wronged and she feels wronged frequently.

What do you get out of this friendship? She sounds like a lot of bother. Just leave her too it.

What a nightmare- you don't need this nonsense in your life.

Cut your losses and move on op. you dont need people like this in your life. If you do happen to bump in to her just hold your head high and walk on. You're the bigger person, let her embarrass herself x

Im not saying the way she is acting is justifed.
However You've got the man she wants. She's jealous which is understandable
. I would be you would be.
Do you think you could be either unintentionally or even intentionally rubbing salt in the wounds.

Cut your loses and move on.

Yes, she might be jealous, but if you are over the age of 21, you get passed it, so a good friendship isn't ended because of it.

It's not that easy though, Birds to just get past things. When someone has the one thing you want more than anything else in the world. I don't think age comes into it.

There comes a time when you realise that Men can be very different in a relationship and until you are in a relationship, then you are basing your attraction on a fantasy, or physical appearance.

It's best for both of them that they don't remain friends, by the sound of it.

But the OP isnt with the man her friend fancied anymore!

well it was her birthday i can understand she might hope to see you an be upset she didnt get to an maybe react badly , if you dont like her fine dont be friends with her anymore, but if you get on with her id just try an sort it out , I dont like having fall outs but if you dont like her for her personality fine but if normally get on well id want to be freinds anyway people fall out an have misunderstandings noones perfect

Are you engaged to the man she liked or another one?

Leave her to it

Did you know your “best” friend at the time fancied this man before you then entered into a relationship with him?

She sounds overly sensitive and a bit immature, but tbh you don’t sound like most considerate friend yourself.

I’d say you both are better off without each other.

I think life is too short for this

Cut her off shes a freak

I used to have a friend like this. He constantly let me down and ditched plans at the last minute, but woe betide me if I couldn’t see him when he wanted me to. The last straw was when he threw a total strop because I’d gone to our home town for a school reunion and didn’t see him instead (even though the reunion was the only reason I’d gone home) and posted public rants about it on Facebook. I pressed every block button going and have never looked back. My life is so much less stressful now.

I’d advise you to do the same. People like this never change. You know all her faults and it’s a pipe dream to think they’ve disappeared since October. And on top of that, SHE blames YOU for everything that goes wrong in your friendship. Pull the plug and save your sanity.

I'm engaged to a different man and we both fancied the other one, she was in a relationship at the time I started seeing him. My daughters have said that I seem calmer and less stressed since I've been not hanging out with this woman and I agree that life feels easier. I don't understand the anxiety I experienced when I saw her the other day but I'm over it now. She's not very popular with many people but I always liked her until I started to question her motives for various things she said to and about me. I'm better off without her and her energy.

Assuming you're not both 13 she sounds like more hassle than she's worth. If she's blocked you it saves you the bother. Move on an don't give her another thought,

Let her get on with it.