To NOT want to hear about your toilet troubles?!

[littlemisssunshine81]

I can’t stand when people talk openly about this to me, I really don’t want to hear how well or not your bowels are functioning. The in laws are staying with us at the moment and I’m frequently being updated on the regulatory and consistency of their movements thanks to my MIL. Seriously keep it to yourself! 🤢

Yanbu at all. I don't even like it when posters talk about it on here.

YABU it's not a big deal and it affects people's lives massively. It's just like talking about any other discomfort, making people feel embarrassed about it is really nasty. Everyone should be able to talk about their illnesses.
I know someone who has severe crohns and can't eat anything and is very ill all the time, talking about it helps him. It's sad people can't be mature about it.

Oh lord!

What's the issue?? It's like someone getting offended about talk of childbirth it's all bloody natural!!

This doesn't bother me. People worry about these things. They might be looking for reassurance, or for a nudge to mention something unusual to their doctor.

I was brought up in a family that was repulsed by all things bodily. I'm fascinated by them

Ex mil felt the need to tell us whether she had /hadn't 'been' that day. I mean why? Just why?!

I tell my family when I'm about to go or if I've been

Casual point it out!

*Casually

I'd hate that too. In the 20 years I've been with DH you would think that neither of us used a toilet the way we refuse to talk about it! Of course if someone has an illness causing problems I'd be sympathetic. But other than that, I don't want to know.

@rollingonariver that’s totally fair, if somebody is poorly and they need to talk about it or need extra support then that’s absolutely ok. Similarly I have no problems whatsoever talking to my kids about it. This example isn’t the case, no medical conditions here, it’s pure oversharing and I don’t really want to hear about whether or not MIL has had diarrhoea today!

Intermittent or fairly regular diarrhoea is a medical issue . She's obviously worried that something isn't right. Suggest she talks to her GP about it.

I’m trying to train the 4 year old out of announcing he’s off for a poo.

YANBU that’s disgusting. No one should talk about that. New parents or any parents with children often share updates about their children's toilet habits. That’s disgusting I don’t want to hear about it

@ShatnersBassoon It’s not just her it’s his whole family. They are sharers. All I’m asking that they don’t share with me. Your advice on seeking medical advice is a whole other issue....there’s really nothing wrong with her and even if there was she’s not somebody who EVER takes advice. Would rather complain about everything and do nothing about it. Pretty frustrating!

As I have a bowel disease, I often have to explain why I might dash off at a moment's notice. Or might be housebound some weeks, whilst appearing fine the rest of the time (I am not fine ever tbh but I cope better some days than others)

So sometimes it is necessary to talk about toiletting issues, be grateful it isn't something you have to worry or talk about.

Another vote in getting your MIL to the doctors. As she need reassurance if it is normal and maybe medical treatment if it isn't.

Uncontrollable diarrhoea and fecal urgency can be symptoms of several bowel problems. She needs checking out.

@Babieseverywhere, I’m sorry about that, it can’t be easy for you. As I said, I’m not at all talking here about medical conditions, just people who feel the need to share everything all the time. I never said I don’t have to worry about it, I just prefer not to share it with others that’s all 🙂

With you on this OP. I think some people when they get older, especially if they don’t get out and about much, just go on about the minutiae of their health care issues. My dad used to give graphic description of his bowel movements. I’ve no issue with people mentioning an issue if they have to rush off due to Ibs, crohns, etc, but some things are of no interest to most people.

I do find it amazing what people will share WRT medical conditions. Not close friends family so much but colleagues and virtual strangers.
One minute you are talking about the sunshine, next they have thrown in something about their intimate health/bowels whatever.

My Mother is terrible for telling me all about some random family member's medical goings on. I don't need to know about great Uncle whoever's piles particularly.

Yes, people need to stop talking shit.

I'm the opposite, as a nurse I have very few boundries talking about bodily functions. I think its important to talk about poo because it says a lot about your health.

I've met many people with health issues that have gone on for a long time and people have spent time suffering in silence because they are too embarrassed to talk about their bodies and worry how people will react.

First thing I say to my family if they complain of tummy ache etc is what has their poo been like.

I don't belive there is such a thing as tmi if it is around your health - constipation and loose stools are both signs something isn't quite right and I don't mind one bit when someone tells me about it either in or out of work.

I get that since I'm a nurse it might be more normal for me to talk about these things but I really do wish more people felt able to be open so they can get the support when they need it rather than carry on suffering.

@anxiouswaiting have you heard Dr Ranj’s Poo song? Good one for you!