To tell him about my trust issues?

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If you was seeing this man, would you tell him that you have trust issues, and that's why you're a certain way? Or would you just leave it and see how it goes?

I've been cheated on, and had my heart broken by several men in the past, and also been stabbed in the back by people who I thought were my friends. So yeah, I find it really hard to trust.

It would depend if it came up and how long I’d been seeing him. If it was someone I barely knew, no I wouldn’t want to share that with him. If it was a more serious relationship and he was questioning why I maybe wasn’t as committed as him, I’d probably explain. Probably would keep it as light as possible, but that’s just my usual choice in conversation.

It depends how long you have been with him and what you hope to achieve by telling him. If it's a new relationship I personally wouldn't - keep it casual and lighthearted - maybe if and when you get more serious, think about if you want to tell him then. .

I didn't and still haven't - my ex lied and cheated and yes it totally broke my heart and ability to trust...but I've already wasted too much time being sad over him. I was single for a couple of years, and then when I met my current boyfriend I didn't tell him about my ex cheating on me. Most of my friends think it's weird that I've never told him, but the way I see it didn't want my ex to have any influence over my new relationship.

Why tell him? It isnt his responsibility. If he acts in a way that makes you think he can’t be trusted, deal with that at the time.
Mwgat do you hope he will do if you tellhim you have trust issues? Alter his behaviour? As that’s controlling.

Don't tell him yet. If you are with him for a fair amount of time and feel secure you will naturally tell him bits and pieces but not all at once. Just relax for now.

No. Brutally honest?

In a new relationship I'd be concerned that you were the problem if you told me several men and friends had all betrayed you. Like you had impossible standards or were a nightmare.