Really concerned about my friend

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This is really outing so I hope she isn't on Mumsnet but here goes. Don't want to drip feed but her DH is just a vile narcissistic pig who has caused my friend no end of stress. His most recent being having an emotional affair with a work colleague.

My friend forgave him but today had a gut feeling and asked him if she could see his phone. lo and behold he was back to his usual tricks. They had an argument, she told him to pack his bags and leave then went upstairs to let him carry on. Next minute she hears a commotion, runs downstairs WARNING MAY BE UPSETTING

...to find him battering their dog. She pulled him away and the dog is ok. But now her DH will not leave. He says it's her fault he beat the dog up cause she hasn't trained him to behave. And he's saying he's not going anywhere as it's his home and marriage. She says he's going from being vile nasty to asking if she wants him to cook her some food. He thinks it will all blow over and she'll forgive like last time but obviously that's not going to happen again.

The house is both of theirs, how the fuck can she get him to leave?

That poor dog needs taking away. As donttouch said the poor dog doesn't have a choice, your friend does.

She needs to lock herself and the dog in the bedroom/bathroom and call the police. Dog might have internal bleeding.

I would also tell her to take the dog to the vets, the poor thing could have internal bleeding/ injuries etc

And no, there's no reason the RSPCA would take the dog if it's obvious your friend is taking action to protect it by calling the police.

god this reminds me of the Claire mackintosh book I just read.he killed the pet next.then there unborn child.and battered her to near death.so this post sickens me for your friends.
when someone has et their anger out with hurting someone or something else that line has been crossed.it wont stop and will get worse.this line has been crossed and something untethered in his thought process of right and wrong and it will happen again.
get her help.do you have a partner.could you both go round and get him out.or even get her out until she can sort things.

Jesus OP, firstly she needs to phone the police, secondly here's the Women's Aid website

www.womensaid.org.uk/

My friend's cousin's ex buried her dog alive.
She still has to send her daughter for unsupervised contact.
Not in UK.

I'd snatch dog and get it away. Attacking a defenceless animal isn't excusable.

I'd want the dog taken away, until that rotten bastard is out of the picture and it's a safe place.

Call the police; take the poor dog to the vet - and inform the vet that this man deliberately hurt the dog. Her best bet might be to play nice for now; take the dog 'for a walk' and call the police while she's out. What she really wants is an occupation order so she can stay in the house and he is not allowed to set foot in it again, but that might take time.
If he's calm at the moment, she might be safe for tonight - because she needs to get any valuables of hers out of the house along with herself and the dog, tomorrow. A man like this will almost certainly destroy her possessions to punish her if she and the dog get away.

Try the Dogs Trust Freedom Project, they might be able to find the dog a temporary foster home to enable her to get out.

Would it be a bad thing if they took the poor dog away ?

I reported my friend's dh for abusing their ddog.
They went and took it away.
Your friend needs to beware she is likely to be his next victim.
Police ASAP.

I can't see a problem with the dog being removed. Poor thing at least isn't going to get the shit kicked out of it.

The dog needs veterinary attention and your friend needs help, call the police.

#Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname thank you x

www.dogstrust.org.uk/help-advice/hope-project-freedom-project/freedom-project

This is the worst thing I've read for a long time. For goodness sake call the police for her if necessary and get the awful man removed

There's a DV checklist the police use and one of the questions is whether the person is cruel to or harms the pets in the home. The police will take this seriously.

Why haven’t you or your friend phoned the police???

People who stand back and allow animal cruelty to happen are to blame as well!

@Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname oh my goodness they just took it? Did they give her another option such as taking it to a family member or did they just take it?

Seriously she is so so so down and I think it would be the final straw if her dog got taken. She has said under no circumstances am I to get involved else she would never confide in me again. I honestly don't know what's worse, phoning the police who could potentially do nothing and then risk her not telling anyone what's happening behind closed doors. Or take the chance and hope they do something.

She has updated me and said he has left the house now. Can she just change the locks or could she then get in trouble as it's his house too?

@NotDrunk it's not as simple as people think to get involved. I've posted again above, she has said that if I get involved she won't ever tell me anything again and I find that worrying as she doesn't speak to anyone else about personal things.

TBH, I think I would change the locks now and deal with the fallout afterwards. If she calls the police then she can register the incident and then get straight to a solicitor in the morning.

And get the dog to the vet for a checkup...

Oh op. Call womens aid, they will talk to you if your concerned about a friend.

Yes she should change the locks and call the police to let them know what happened. The dog might need to see the vet. Are you close enough to go and see her?