Basically, I am away at a conference for 2 nights. As dp has temporary supply work, I asked him if he could take 2 days off to do childcare (has was complaining he had not seen enough of them recently). He said no, he needed the money and they needed him in work. My parents are elderly and have been helping out a lot recently. They said they were happy to look after them at their house (they needed time at home). Dp threw his dummy out of the pram on the phone to them (saying we hadn't 'discussed' arrangements), so bullied them into coming to our house to look after the kids (my dad had only just done a week's stint the week before). I have just called home and discovered exdp has NOT gone into work, because, quote 'its a sunny day', 'he didn't know in advance he wouldn't be going in' and 'that's the beauty of supply work'.He's gone off out somewhere with the kids, even though my parents drove 80 miles especially. He wont give them any thanks or money. Am IBU to be livid with his lack of thoughtfulness and how he's completely using others on a whim?