Sorry this is long but I don't want to miss anything/ drip feed
I recently broke up with xDP after 4 years together.
There was a largish age gap (I'm 44 and he's 26), but it never really seemed to matter much. I have 2 dds who xdp is much closer in age to than we are (20 and 23).
Because I already have children, I wasn't bothered about having any more, and thought it would be difficult because of my age regardless. Xdp always said he wasn't bothered about having children as he has a niece and nephew he sees a lot.
In July last year I found out I was pregnant. It was a complete accident but I was happy. Xdp was delighted, and said it made him realise that he actually really did want a child, and couldn't wait to be a dad. However, in August I had a miscarriage and we were both devastated as it had felt like our possible only chance to have a child as there is history of early menopause in my family. I didn't cope well with the grief, and I will admit that I withdrew from him because I didn't want to talk about what could've been.
We went on a holiday in September with both my dds to try and get away from everything and have a break where we didn't have to think about the baby.
Everything seemed ok on holiday, and I thought we would get through it as a couple. When we got back, xdp seemed a bit distant and withdrawn, but not overly unhappy.
Where xdp works, they get new staff every January on a contract basis. He usually tells me about the new staff and what they are like etc. This January it was a man and a woman, he said they were both around 23ish. He said the man seemed nice, but he hadn't really got to know the woman as she was only there a week before going away for a holiday.
He was still distant, and started getting more so over the next couple months. Then mid March he said he didn't think it was working between us anymore because we barely spoke and weren't intimate since our holiday, and was going to stay at his parents for a week to give us some space and decide if we wanted to split or work at the relationship.
After the week he said he wanted us to split so packed his stuff and officially moved back to his parents. (I know he definitely did go back to his parents for that week, as I know them well after the 4 years and his mum text me saying he was back there and was I ok).
I'm still friends with his family (except him) on social media. This weekend his mum put a picture on saying about a nice day with the family in the sun, and the new girl from work was with them. Someone had commented asking who she was and his mum had put it's xdps new girlfriend. (I know what she looks like as he became friends with her and the new man from work on social media end of February time so i had seen her picture from there).
Obviously we broke up over 3 months ago now, so they may well have got tog ether after our breakup, but aibu to think he left me for her? It just seems really soon to meet his parents if they only got together after we broke up.