Poo spreading

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I was talking to a friend about another friend's DS spreading his poo in his bed and bedroom. How he'd put one "log" by the door so when they opened it, it smeared across the floor! He is only 3 years old. I was really telling it as a funny story but my friend got very serious and said that it's not normal. She works with children so probably knows about these things. She said it's a sign of abuse
The other family doesn't seem abusive and I know them well. I'm not sure it is serious. Aibu to think it's nothing to worry about?

I agree with your friend. Absolutely not normal.

Strange post but anyway ....
Im a health care professional and this is not normal behaviour in a 3 year old child . An isolated accident can happen but this sounds planned and deliberate . I would say that the child needs a psychological referral . Have the parents asked him why he’s doing it?

I can be a sign that they are trying to create a barrier if they have had a negative reaction from poo or it could be a method to get attention because they feel ignored. It is also a sign of abuse but it can also be a sign of cognitive impairment. www.friendshipcircle.org/blog/2015/04/27/6-facts-about-fecal-smearing-that-you-need-to-know/

Not "normal" but not necessarily ringing abuse-type alarm bells. My DS did this briefly at the same kind of age and it was to do with the anxiety of a new sibling arriving - kind of a combination of territorial behaviour and attention seeking. Pretty gross at the time but we just tried to deal with it in a matter-off-fact way rather than with disgust/outrage etc, plus address the anxiety it seemed to be expressing. The family probably needs to put some thought into what might be causing their son's behaviour but talk of abuse is jumping the gun imo.

Not normal, one if mine did it, I have 3 with autism, high functioning. We never got to the cause if it but I think it was almost a way of communication as they were non verbal at3.5 but stopped when they could talk and now have no recollection of it but they can remember things prior

How can you tell if some one is abusive ? Not saying that is the case but people who abuse be it physical or mentally will seem loving and caring to the out side world.

The poo situation is not normal in any case maybe as a one or a baby but at 3 years old not normal .