Aibu to think nine year olds should have outgrown tantrums?

[MissMiserable]

Exactly that. My 9yo just had a full on tantrum with tears and screaming because I said no to getting an ice cream from the ice cream van. It's followed by raging around screaming about how we don't care about her and we always say no to everything and we'll probably say no next time too (which I will if she behaves this way again). She rages like this every time she's told no. I don't give in, so it's not like it achieves anything and she gets her own way, because she doesn't.

She's also horrendously impatient, demanding and always interrupts.

We have autism in the family, but no girls with autism, so I have no idea what girls with autism present like. Would you be concerned?

Without other info I've no idea about ASD but I will say from 9 yrs old the hormones could v easily be raging and the tantrums sound very similar to my 11 year old who is definitely hormonal!

My 9 year old girl also loses it regularly but she is less of a tantrummer so not so bad!

Every chance she has hormones flying around. Give her a hug and let her have chance to calm down and apologise

What is your home life like? What about school? Is it possible that she is anxious. Anxiety often presents as rage.

My now 16 year old had some awesome tantrums at 8/9. It was worse than the terrible two's! She is a neurotypical/bright kid (has 11 gcse's, 6 at A*) and grew out of it by 10.
A lot is hormones and not being old enough to have learnt to deal with emotions.
Stay calm, don't shout and tell her you love her all the time. ie. This behaviour is not acceptable but I love you so much and will talk about it when you've calmed down.
I hope she grows out of it soon!

Adding: she doesn't remember any of it now and finds my tales of things she did/said very amusing.

Quote possibly racecar. Home is not particularly 'exciting' or unusual. We often have tummy aches and not wanting to go into school. I've never been able to work out why. Dd simply says she misses me.

My older ones had long outgrown tantrums at this age.

My 11 year old was raging and screaming on the walk home from school because (a) I didn't want to walk home the back way, which takes longer and involves more hills and (b) I was walking too fast.

My friend was telling me this morning that her 10 yo spent the weekend rolling her eyes/ being rude/ whining.

It's the end of term, it's ridiculously hot, they are full of hormones. Roll on September

My 10 year old has regular hissy fits

It’s just their character . Some people are calm and some —- are not !

My 8.5 yr old DS still has big meltdowns over small things when he's tired,hot, hungry, worried etc. He's an overthinker who carries the world on his back and sometimes it bubbles over.

I think there are also a lot of hormones going on as he's worse when he's growing.

My eldest still used to have a few epic tantrums at that age.

She is still a bit of a drama queen at 16. No tantrums fortunately.