To think you should watch your own child!

[notmycircusnotmyjob]

NC for this.

Took DD to a new stay and play this morning.
All was fine and DD was quite happy playing with a little trough of sand.
Another girl came along and started to shove my DD and not share, the girl then pushed my DD hard and my DD pushed her back and got sand on her.

The girl ran off to her mum and said she had had sand thrown in her eyes I said that wasn't what happened and that she had pushed my DD and so my DD had pushed her back.
The mum asked if this was the case and the girl said it was true.

The mum then looked at me and loudly said "well the polite thing to do would have been to come and tell me what happened wouldn't it, because I wasn't watching."

I replied that I had just stood there and told her what had happened and that I was watching and there was nothing else to tell her.
I then said that if she was watching her child then she would have known anyway.

AIBU to think that you should watch your own child and not expect others so report to you?

It's not being smug ffs it's being a decent parent, some parents don't deserve kids.
They spend more time on their phones than they do entertaining and caring for their kids.
You did the right thing OP, I'd have said exactly the same.

Lord OP ignore the goady fuckers. The hot weather brings them out in droves.

OP doesn't sound smug.

The other parent sounds ridiculous. Suspect she's in for a rude awakening when her child starts reception and her child is used to doing what she wants and lying about it. Luckily, you saw what happened so you weren't having it.

I think I was defensive because it was our first time there, we didn't know anybody and I didn't want DD to be known as that kid that throws sand in peoples eyes!
I want her, and me, to make some new friends.

Not sure we'll be going back there again, will look for another one!

Don't let it put you off, OP. It's great that you're bringing up DD to be resilient.

I fecking hate it when someone tries to kill a thread by an accusation of smuggery.
Smug off yourself, you smug fucker.