Name changed for this as may be outing and don't want it linked to my main username.
I am NC with DM and have been on and off for more than 15 years.
The latest stretch has been the last four years after my wedding, which I was reluctantly persuaded to invite her to only for her to make it about her - including trying to get my BF/BM (who had never met her before) to ditch me and the reception at join her in the pub (she herself had refused to come to the reception).
She burns the bridges every time I've tried to be the better person with her self-centred behaviour.
Needless to say I've had enough.
Recently we had DC1 and she is now asking to see him.
She is getting DSis who I am low contact with, to try and get DF (who I am close to) to try and persuade me - including using her DC as a manipulation tool (they should be able to see their cousin and can't understand why Auntie WTFH hates granny).
DM sent me a text (number now blocked) and it was all about her desperation to see him and nothing inquiring about how I was following an emergency section.
She's even contacted DF directly, which is a big thing as she hates him.
I've been told I'm selfish for depriving DC of a grandmother but as I see it they won't miss out on anything by avoiding a toxic personality.
I keep repeating no, but it's falling on deaf ears and I am asked every bloody week.
Apart from anything else I don't think my MH will stand another "reunion" but it's certainly not being helped by this constant pressure either.
WWYD to stop this once and for all?