To ask how you'd feel if a man said this to you?

[Londonlauren90]

If things are getting really serious with a guy, and he keeps talking about his ex, and the things she did wrong and why things went wrong in their relationship.

And he will also say " I've been with my ex for a x number of years, and only been with you for this short period of time, it feels so different and so right, I'm so much more compatible with you than my ex etc"

What would you think?

Red flag.

Too much ex talk.

I'd think he was a dick.

I'd run tbh.

Big red flag. Happy, well adjusted people don't go on about their exes or make comparisons between them and a new partner. Big no!

I'd think he wasn't over her

I'd think I'd be outta there !

Loserrrrr

Still into her.

I had a bf with ex-mentionitis and he turned out to be CRAY. He would spend hours sorting out all his files of photos of her (!!!), encourage me to colour my hair like hers, buy me the perfume she wore, encourage me to get certain clothes she wore a lot. Shared insanely intimate details about their relationship with me. What was weird (or not so weird, I suppose!) was that when we broke up, he harassed and stalked my family, my new boyfriend, and the obsession became about me instead.

I'm not saying you have a bunny boiler on your hands, but he's thinking about her too much. He's not ready for a new relationship. Is he very young? Is she his only big relationship so far?

I’d think that a gentleman doesn’t badmouth his ex, that a decent man takes responsibility for half of the relationship breakdown and doesn’t blame the ex for it all. And I think you’re being groomed as his second toxic relationship.
Try asking him what he has learned from the mistakes HE made in his first relationship. His reaction could be very interesting.

Run for your life. He's grooming you, plain and simple. The constant talk about his "horrible" ex is huge red flag. Get out now.

It did kinda put me off, the constant "it feels so right, I'm soooo compatible with you than her". I was just like . Only known him for two months

He's very full on

What does he say about her?

He's love bombing you. Run, don't walk, away from this guy.

Ugh. He's a weirdo.

Is he quite young, or inexperienced in relationships (or are you much more experienced than him?) It could be him trying to fall back on the only real knowledge he has, or insecurity that you might have many more exes than him.

More likely, though, is that he's still thinking about her a fair amount. Maybe discuss this with him?

If he starts actually badmouthing her, I'd leave. Best advice I ever got was "never trust a man with a lot of crazy exes."

I'd say he was trying to convince himself as much as saying it to convince you. Quite a recent break-up was it?

I’d say 👋🏻 Seeya!!

Hmm. I don't know about this one, because I don't think you can tar everyone with the same brush. I have talked about the differences of a past relationship with my current partner and not because I'm not over the ex, but because I can't believe how bloody lucky I am now! He is okay with this and has equally discussed his past with me.

However, if my partner couldn't shut up about his ex then that would raise some major eyebrows. Maybe flag it up with him? If he's otherwise a great guy, he may just not realise how he's coming across.

I don't necessarily see a red flag here. He could genuinely just be expressing how happy he is that this relationship is better than his last, especially if his ex was a nightmare.

Sounds like he's got a lot of issues to work through. You don't need to be around that OP.

I like rosesandflowers1 Best advice I ever got was "never trust a man with a lot of crazy exes."

2 months in? He seems really intense. I was going to ask some questions to better understand, like how long was he with ex, why did they split, how long has he been single, any dating between you and ex... But I don't think any of the answers will make me think any different. Leave.

My guess is, his ex is actually a nice person and he's a dick and one day he'll be doing this to someone else about you.

Fucker

Have you told him to shut up about ex? It's not exactly pillow talk. He might be being a bit clumsy about ex or just someone to avoid