Bit of background. This is my DM side of the family. Our GF died at Xmas time. There are 4 children. My DM, 2 aunties and my uncle. My DG is still alive and fully with it and mobile.
Just before my GF died my DM and 1 of her sis fell out over various reasons. None of which were my DM fault. My DM didn't really speak to her other sis before all this either. The sis my DM fell out with used to be so close and she said she was her best friend so she's pretty upset about falling out with her.
Anyway my mum received a short text saying they were going to scatter GF ashes either just before fathers day or on his birthday a few weeks later. In the text it then said they had settled on just before fathers day. They had not asked my DM for any input and they all knew she was on holiday but did not rearrange. So they scattered them without my DM there. My DM is hurt beyond belief and distraught that they would do that even if they did fall out.
The reason I ask AIBU to be wary is because of the two sisters of my DM behaviour. While my GF was laying dead in the hallway waiting for pullbearers to turn up my aunties husband's began going through his papers. If I had of been there I would have told him to stop. But no one did as of what just happened. He has then taken it upon himself along with my auntie to arrange all GM financial affairs. She sat with GM alone while the will was read and GM had to sign. My GM has told my DM that this auntie has her bank card as she needs to sort something but this was about a month ago. There's a few other things too but this would be too long.
Before all this I would have trusted this auntie we were fairly close. But after some other stuff my DM has told me about her and her husband then I'm not so sure. My DM has told my GM to watch her money.
AIBU to be weary? Is there anything I can do to stop my GM being screwed over?