Hubbys text

[lindyloo691]

Ok, so hubby was sleeping before and his work phone came threw with a text. I checked it too see if it was important to wake him and just a text saying someone's sister would like a job.
He's just woken up and told him his phone went off. He goes yeah it's someone asking when I'm dropping off something needed for work .
What do I do? I feel like asking but don't know if I'm be UV because I'm very jealous so probably doesn't want the ear ache so not said nothing, am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

Yabu

If it was me, I'd tell him what you said in your post, that you checked the message in case it was important. It seems a silly lie in your husband's part.
Is there a lot of jealousy in your relationship which means he would feel uncomfortable even mentioning a colleague's sister is looking for work? If this is how he feels I think you may want to think about some help with the dynamics of your relationship.

What is there to be jealous of? Sorry, I’m confused.

I really don't see the issue. He gets a text about something mundane and tells you it was something else equally mundane. Maybe he was still half asleep. Maybe there was more than one text. Maybe he's wary of you reading things into anything invloving another female, no matter how innocent. Is there a back story to justify your jealousy out of interest?

I know my jealousy is a massive problem. I have no idea how to combat it tbh. I trust him but have this idea all women will steal him!!! I know)
Thanks I know I'm being unreasonable just needed to be told

Maybe another text had come through in the meantime?

What are you jealous of?

Going to guess there's a mahoosive backstory ?

No massive back story. I think my jealousy has came from my screwed up life before him. He's over all great, works hard,great father I'm just stupid over everything and I mean everything.

I am no stranger to unfounded jealousy, believe me - but even I would think in this case that your husband had had more than one boring work-related text, and the one he mentioned was the one that just came to mind when you asked him. Either that, or he hadn't even read the one you read, but had been expecting one asking him when he was dropping something off, so assumed that was what it was about.

People can’t steal other people OP. It’s not a thing.

If you get upset by reading his phone then don’t do it. It’s his work phone. He’s not at work because he’s asleep. I’d leave him to it.

all women will steal him

It's fair enough to be pleased that you are together, and to think that because he is the love of your life, every other woman on the planet would like to get with him.

It is VV unreasonable to think that he has no say in the matter, so you either trust him or you do not.

Do you trust him?

Yeah I do trust him, Just wondered why he'd lie and my brain is doing overtime

Who says he's lying? Maybe he was actually expecting a text about work stuff so he assumed it was that? Seems an odd thing to lie about.

I spoke to him and he showed me, as others have said he got 2 texts. Told me next time to read both and not half a message. Made me realise I worry about the daftest of things and I should not. That's however my own problems I need to sort out.

The best way to lose a good man is to ruin the relationship with your paranoid jealousy and unfounded lack of trust. Get this sorted or your marriage could be in serious trouble.

Sorry but you need to seek help, this is a serious issue you have & you're probably very much in danger of pushing away a decent man with your, seemingly, unfounded paranoia.

Have you had any kind of counselling for you jealousy? Your reactions sound very extreme, and will ultimately damage your relationship.