Loneliness

[Lozxx]

I just wonder why in a world full of people you can feel so lonely?
I have a one year old and my partner but I feel like something is missing. I'm in my 20's and its like my life is just always the same, day in day out. I love spending time with my boy and his daddy but I feel I've lost myself recently. I'm happy with everything else and feel grateful for the things I've got. I'm a social butterfly but rarely get asked anymore to do anything, I know I have a child now but I don't want to completely forget about myself. I also need to add I have BPD so this also adds to the feeling of loneliness and abandonment. I dunno if I sound selfish? Who else understands?

I understand, I feel lonely too sometimes (I'm 39). I think loneliness is a very common problem these days although very few people admit to it, especially if they're relatively young. There are so many ways to keep in touch with people on a surface level these days (social media) yet so few opportunities to really connect with others face to face. I feel you OP xx

I'm feeling this to. iv started hating weekends due to it.
iv got two boys but my df is based over seas at the moment and friends who are busy, though even if they wernt I'm not sure I could assed to go meet up. I can't be assed to even sleep no more.

I'm not any help but just wanted to say your not alone xx

@JovialNickname you are so right, social media is seriously the only way people talk. I get messages like "oh I'll see you soon" but never actually happens. I love to be busy, that's just who I am. Thank you for commenting, I really hope it gets better for you x

Also in my 20s with a 1 year old. Also feel lonely every day. Also feel guilty about it all the time.

@cmlover I completely get it, don't you think it's actually harder with kids to be sociable? I'm with you about weekends, I now no longer work weekends which is great but now my partner does so we rarely get family time. It's really crap as mothers we need to learn how to do things just for us. I'm sorry to hear about your partner being away lots. That must be hard, try to look after your health and sleep is so needed x

My best pearl of wisdom is:

All things change.

Especially when you have kids! Nursery/Reception/School/play dates/clubs/activities loom into view frighteningly quickly and you'll be meeting people and your routine is up in the air and no longer your own.

Even if you do nothing else until this kicks in it's fairly easy to seize the opportunity to allow your DCs changing life to change yours.