Should he pay half?

[TheFUNword]

Friend came down to stay in the south of England with me for a few days. We normally alternate who goes to who. He and I tend to pay similar but split bills and have similar attitude to money. I ended up buying our takeaway the first night (£30) and a round of drinks last night (£20). We tend to transfer each other the excess after but he hasn’t brought it up and I feel really tight for asking! How do I say it? I’m fairly sure he’s not out of pocket but was going to say something like, “let me know if I owe you anything and will transfer! Think I paid for the Chinese and drinks but otherwise all square!” We both have well paying jobs, him about 10k more actually (context!)

He lives in Scotland btw so fares not cheap

How much more do you think you spent than him?

I think I spent that on joint stuff and he didn’t spend anything on joint stuff

Sounds like a headache to me, me and my friends just more or less take it in turns, but we don't count. None of us are rolling in it btw.

Would you usually count travel money in the spend? So his train ticket to you; your Chinese and your drinks were the spends this time?

No don’t normally factor travel money. Not a big deal but I’m 50 quid down now, just leave it?

As in should I just leave it!

I would leave it, but you are the one moaning about £25.

Your only really £25 down if you normally split it. And for that amount I wouldn't bother risking embarrassing a friend.

If you need the money then of course you need to bring it up. If you don’t need the money then don’t say anything.