I have one younger brother. I'm in my 30s and he's mid-late 20s.
We used to get on well before where we used sit and chat and catch up once in a while. Not anymore. Things changed and I have no idea what or why. There's been no row or argument between us to cause a change in him.
It started in winter time of 2016, he used to out and it took him days to come back and when he did, he was tripping. There was defit more than alcohol on board.
He stopped coming home tripping then. Early 2017, he picked himself up a girlfriend.
All throughout 2017, he had no time whatsoever for the family (me and our mum) he was so happy and willingly bum off. There was zero conversation from him unless if he wanted something or he was being overly critical.
There was an instant at Christmas time where one of his shirts wasn't cleaned or washed and he completely lost it to our mother. There was no need for that. He had other clean shirts but the very one that wasn't washed - he wanted.
He's a fcuking little dickhead and truth be told my mother is much better for dancing to his tune.
Going out with his friends or his girlfriend or whoever is a regular occurrence while he claims he has no money for helping with bills at home. Rubbish. He often loses his phone and other belongings on nights out. He did it a few times last year. He lost his phone back in March and again in April.
Back in May, he went out and eventually after a day or two he came home - drink driving. He lost his phone again. His hangovers are not normal. It takes a day or two to come down from them and it's as if he is depressed. I firmly believe there is more than alcohol involved here. He's being a dickhead. My mother is too blind and doesn't want to see it.
He went out last weekend on the Saturday and he came home late on Saturday night. He slept all day on Sunday. He didn't even rise once. He went to work on Monday morning. He rang our mum after work and asked her if she wanted anything from the shop and he said he might be a little while coming home and that he's stopping off at a friend's house on the way home. That was about 5 o clock. He didn't bother coming home at at and when he did it was the middle of the night.
He was drunk (probably more with drugs too)
He drove home like that.
He was violent.
He lost his phone again.
None of this is acceptable and my mother is very much putting up with this - 'her poor little boy'. The mouth on her and listening to her was sickening. It's only a matter of time before something serious happens from him and all because she is refusing to provide him with an ounce of responsibility.
Imagine if her baby boy had to pay a bill once in a while. I wonder how much money he would have for drink/drugs, drink driving home, losing his phone and replacing it.
It took me a long time to see my brother for what he is. He's nothing more but a user and a bum and piece if scum.
Anyways, he hasn't spoken to me at all, all week. He passed by a few times and grunted hello but that's it, zero conversation.
Anyways, I've been thinking a lot lately about deleting him from my Facebook friends list. There's no interaction on Facebook at all from him. Recently, I clicked onto his profile and I figured I must be on a restricted friend list from him.
What would you do in this? Would you delete him or not and keep the line of communication going even though things are fairly dead and have been for some time.