to think that I'm allowed to be uncomfortable at 5 months pregnant?

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At a day out with DP. Lots of walking in mid - late 20 degree heat. Lots of ligament pain, nauseous, tired, belly hurts and I don't seem to be able to regulate my temperature too well.

DP seems to not be taking any of this in to account and is huffing and puffing at me having to sit down every so often. Compared it to the fact that he had a knee operation two years ago and that he can still walk.

AIBU to think I'm allowed to feel like this and that his lack of sympathy makes him a total knob? I'm really uncomfortable.

He should look up empathy and asshole.

One of those things he lacks, the other is what he is.

What are you doing walking around in this heat all day!!! Tell him it’s no comparison to a knee op, a pregnancy will affect every part of your body.

Don't get me wrong I wanted to come and I'm perfectly ok with hot weather! As long as when I want to sit down I can without someone trying to make me feel like I'm being a drama queen.

People seem to think pregnancy is only a bit hard maybe eighth at the end.

He sounds charming.
I am not pregnant but I am pretty unwell and have mobility problems. DH looks after me and puts up with a lot.
Not once has he complained.
When I feel bad that he has to do so much, he reminds me that he promised to stick by me in sickness and in health.
I am disheartened that there seem to be so many unkind, disrespectful men around.
Is your DP usually like this?

Some people do seem to think pregnancy can be hard only at the end! I'm 7 months and feeling the heat - but have to keep reminding my DH that I am actually pregnant and not out of shape (...probably out of shape too). Annoying!

Good luck OP - have an ice cream!

Sorry! Posted too soon. People think pregnancy is only a bit hard maybe right at the end. But you can feel absolutely rotten from the first few weeks. I had terrible sciatica and developed SPD around 20 weeks so a day our walking in hot sun would have been miserable. It would have been at 6 weeks when I was already vomiting everywhere and exhausted and at 38 weeks when I could barely walk or breathe after getting to the end of the street. He needs to understand how you feel. I remember saying to DH “why would I pretend to feel this way? Why would I purposely want to restrict my life and complain and stop doing fun things if it wasn’t for the fact I had too as I feel so awful?” He didn’t really have an answer! He was brilliant with my first pregnancy actually but second time he definitely seemed to expect me to just get on with it as I had to deal with DS but I pointed out that my body didn’t know that and I needed more help than usual.

What a dick he is. I am not pregnant and reasonably for, and I would need to sit down at intervals. Tell him to try carrying a melon on his body, squashing your organs and making you feel tired.

That was quite possibly the longest day of my life!

I'm struggling at just under 20 wks... temperature regulation is problematic from fairly on!

I'm 21 weeks and mine has been great. Won't let me carry things, constantly getting me water, offering to send me for a massage. Some other people though are either of the "You're pregnant, not ill," or "I ran a marathon at 36 weeks," persuasion.

YANBU!

When I was pregnant I remember DH used to bring water and an emergency supply of biscuits If I needed to rest he always did, and we made sure not to travel too far without a car just in case.

I'm not saying he has to carry a pack of Digestives around with him wherever he goes, but some basic empathy isn't too much to ask. He's behaving like a dick, even if he isn't one.

I’m only 15 weeks and struggling a bit! Had an open abdominal surgery at 11 weeks so still a little sore from that, and spd which started at 18 weeks last time seems to be starting already. I wouldn’t be impressed if DH was impatient!!