Would you stay with someone you couldn't talk to anymore?

[Majorintrovert]

Just that really. Recently for many many reasons I've been falling out of love with dh. I would be here all day listing reasons but I'll name three.
No support with two young kids really.
Watches me struggle with house work with an auto immune disease and doesn't help
Doesn't contribute since being made redundant. (this would be fine if he looked for work, but he doesn't. But he's going back into education soon so.. I guess I can't hold that against him)

Yeah.. I do everything with 2 under 2.
Everytning was fine before. He was contributing. We were lucky to even conceive as I was told I couldn't have children. I love my kids more than anything possible. Just not him anymore. I don't want anyone else, but I'm just starting to feel.. Unhappy, unappreciated and upset. Tried speaking to him and I'm the bad guy all the time.

We went on a date last week for our anniversary. For the first time my parents looked after our dcs, we've never left them before and I just didn't know what to talk about with him. We sorta just sat there. I found it very awkward.
There's no intimacy anymore. Not even a peck on the cheek. If I try and give him a peck on the cheek or hold his hand, he brushes me off. More recently using the excuse "its too hot".. No talking anymore. Just him complaining at me all day

He insists he still loves me and wants to be with me for the rest of our lives but I'm not sure I do anymore :(

Wwyd?

I’m in no way making excuses for his poor behaviour but do you think he might have depression? You’ve a lot on your plate and it’s easy to get lost in the mundaneness of life, illness and kids xx

He does. He has bipolar disorder but won't get medication to control it. But like he won't even speak to me. He's had it since I've known him and every time I've tried to being up a conversation he just shrugs me off. I did ask the other day if he had fallen out of love with me and I got flowers and "no." the flowers were a beautiful gesture.
I want this to work. But at the moment I don't feel like it will. I can't help him if he won't let me in. I want nothing more than to love him again but this has been since ds was born 4 months ago :(

I think the flowers are a nice gesture and it shows that he does still care (I think) and probably craves the intimacy and closeness as well but he’s really got to address the MH issues he has. It’s not fair on you, your F.C. or him.

My brother has schizophrenia and will come off his meds from time to time because he doesn’t feel himself but he’s very much functional. What he doesn’t realise is that it’s a half life for his wife, his 5 DDs and our family when he’s off them.

No one can tell whether your feelings will rush back once he’s stable but I think you’ve got to be honest with him and force him to address the elephant in the room. He’s not giving you the best he can be just now and that’s not fair on anyone. I’m hope I’m not coming across as harsh to anyone with MH issues, that’s not my intention