To think I wasn't looming?

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A new park has recently opened near us. We took the dds today. Dd1 (3) spied one of those sand digger things and ran over to it. A boy of about 7 was playing on it. I got dd to stand back a bit and explained that she needed to wait till the boy had his turn. She wanted me to wait with her and hold hands so I did. A queue formed behind us.We waited for at least 10 mins when the boys mum came over and said “he waited 20mins for a go, you know” I smiled and said no problem we're happy to wait dd was just watching what other kids were up to. The mum then said that she felt I was being intimidating and there was no need to loom over him. We were at least 6ft away from the lad and he seemed to be totally unaware we we were waiting. It's really niggled me as I'd never intend to intimidate a child and I can't
see that we were. Was ibu or was she??

Yanbu. DD does tend to stand and scowl at people until they get off the swings though.

Tbh I would have just taken your DD to play on something else and returned to it a bit later when nobody was using it. Standing there waiting for another child to finish playing with something is going to make them/ their parent feel rushed, intentionally or not.

@lunatrap ordinarily I would but the park was packed everything was in use so if we weren't waiting for that it would have been something else.

Tbh I would have just taken your DD to play on something else and returned to it a bit later when nobody was using it. Standing there waiting for another child to finish playing with something is going to make them/ their parent feel rushed, intentionally or not.

But if a queue of people built up waiting for it, then there likely wouldn't have been a time when there was nobody playing with it. If there is a single item that is in demand then a child playing with it should be aware that others are waiting and their parents should limit the time they spend on it to ensure that everyone gets a go.

Ah if it was packed then fair enough, the parent should have moved him on after a little while.

For some reason it's really bothered be and I can't work out why it’s got under my skin so much. Dh wisely points out that if the lad felt intimidated it didn't show..I.e he didn't move or acknowledge the queue at alll

If he’d waited 20 minutes for it, then surely she’d done the same thing and queued for it?

YANBU

She was transferring her anxiety on to you. Often kids are better at knowing the rules of the playground than adults are! She probably thought you were judging him (and my extension her) but he was just getting on with his turn. Don't think anything more about it!